Recent content by quitecontrary

Thanks nycindie. I know sometimes people can tell me something again and again, and I don't take them seriously or understand until I've gone through it. I definitely am planning on taking it slow now. I love R to pieces and I don't intend to be leaving this relationship anytime soon. Jericka...

Oh, not a problem. Bugs happen. :-) Just wondering, for future experience. Thanks!

Basically, you're right. Summarizing what I tried to post earlier and will probably show up at some point: I didn't really know what I was getting into, and none of us had really talked about how things would go if/when I moved in. I was in some serious hurt from leaving the boyfriend and my...

I dunno... I am trying really hard not to portray him in a negative light, because I'm sure he has his side of it too, but I DO feel justified with my feelings. I wrote a longer reply, not sure if/when it will get through. Is there a certain length that it has to be before it has to be...

I think he expected either that I would just be with her or that I would be with everybody. I didn't really know what to expect. All I knew was that I was hurting and I didn't know what to do. I guess I was assuming that I'd just be with her and no one else. Once I got there, I was in tremendous...

As a mono in a poly relationship, I'm wondering if she's been mono all along. I know I fell in love with a poly guy, but when I found someone else, I totally broke his heart and left for the new person, which was a jerk move, similar to what she seems to be doing. I wonder how much experience...

Just a note on L's husband: I wrote this last night when I was kind of upset about an ongoing situation involving him, and I wish the edit function were still available. We just push each other's buttons. I am angry with him, and he is angry with me, and we both have our reasons and we both feel...

It seems to be a boundary - he was okay with me being with L, but that was only because she got there first. :p And yes, I have thought of that. Right now it doesn't matter, because there is no way I'm looking for a second or even opening that possibility. It's caused me and the people I love...

Newbie mono in poly relationship. Looooong. Hi there, I'm quitecontrary (and apparently didn't think about how that would sound in an intro when I chose my username :) I am a 23 year old bi female, the mono in a poly relationship with my sweetie, R, who is 9 years my senior. (Also submissive...