Recent content by Rayek

Thanks for your support. Thanks all. I'm just not sure right now. I want poly to work, because I think it's ethical, not to be a person that 'owns' the body and mind of someone else. I don't think that's right. But looking at my own behaviour during the 'open' bit of the relationship I find that...

She's since discovered that she's a full-blown lesbian. We broke up yesterday. I feels unfair and wrong, but I don't blame her for trying to be herself. Thanks for the help, all. I don't think Poly is right for me, I naver dipped into it myself, just was okay with her being who she was.

This is a really interesting comment because we had a long chat about our whole situation together last night and things are becoming more clear. It turns out that she hasn't been into men, or me, for the past couple months. That I do have the dreaded penis, and that she loves me but isn't sure...

I would love to be able to see Mary's position, but I really hate to suppose, which is why a meeting would clear a lot of things up. Not even a meeting about 'business' or whatnot, just seeing who she is, what she likes. I don't want to be her BFF, I just want to be friendly. I think all of...

All of this is what I've been thinking for the past two weeks. Not fun :(

I do feel a bit bad for bringing it up after so long, but honestly, once it became clear that what we were getting into was polyamory and not just "sex with friends" I had the inclination immediately. Not to say that I set it up as a boundary, or a personal need from the relationship from the...

That may be the solution, and if the situation wasn't so cathartic for me last night, I would have been into 'toughing it out'. But knowing that it all could have been avoided with a simple chat, and even ended up being an awesome time makes me frustrated. Maybe I can forget it and try to work...

Thank you!

With the initial invitation to have coffee, it's true that I really wanted to meet her. I was interested in knowing the person Beth felt so much about, I didn't see us talking poly, or even Beth for that matter. I imagined us waxing intellectual about music, gender things (hang out with me for a...

Sorry if my terms are incorrect, I'm Beth's primary, Mary is her tertiary. I don't think I said she was my tertiary or anything, just that the relationship they have together isn't the primary one. I'd like to know why/how not wanting to meet me is in any way showing respect for the fact that...

What to do when metamour's needs conflict with mine. [long!] Hello. This will be a long one, I'll try to make it as sweet as possible. For the sake of clarity I'll use some names, none of which are the names of anyone involved. I met Beth when she was bound to blossom into the world's best...

Hello My name is Max, I'm a 25 years young male (assigned gender) but I recently discovered that I identify as genderqueer. I have been in an 'open' relationship with bisexual a woman which has more recently become polyamorous. I am well-read, but overall ill-equipped for said situation, and my...