Recent content by RedSalamander

I so relate to you. :) I am loved by a wonderful girl who is actively dating. She gives me no reason at all to doubt her love - she is incredibly supportive. Yet I still feel crazy, insecure, jealous, and petty whenever she sees one of her lovers. I just need to get the f&*%$ over myself...

This is exactly the advice I would give as well. From what the OP has told us, it sounds like this relationship is not off to a good start. Also, "just get over it" is NEVER an acceptable response, if you give a damn about the other person at all.

This is a really interesting point and I'm glad I glanced at this tread because this got me thinking. Thanks! One further note - if OP is going to classify the "unicorn" relationship because it is a stereotype, then it also seems fair to mention that it is stereotypically a m/f couple seeking...

I identify with Mya, because I have relationships with some partners that are definitely full, romantic love relationships, and I have other relationships that are much more like FWB. Like km34, I feel like I fall into a zone in-between polyamory and swinging, but I self-identify as poly...

Other - it has much less to do with the amount if time I have been with someone, and more to do with that person's current number of active sexual relationships, and how seriously they take safer-sex within those other relationships.

Very well said! Bad behaviors are bad behaviors, and all people are capable of them. If a couple isn't open to redefining their couple-ness when they add a relationship to their structure, and they treat every other partner as a "less-than" plaything, that doesn't sound healthy to me at all...

Thanks for all the responses. I understand where you are coming from, but in my world, primary and secondary are just ways of describing how involved I am with someone. It is not a reflection on their personhood or a reflection on how I treat them - I treat all my lovers with respect and...

If you begin dating someone new, perhaps someone you are still feeling out and possibly experiencing NRE with, do you place them on an equal status as, say, a spouse with whom you have shared your life for a decade? In this context, I would see the spouse as a primary partner, and the new lover...

Hello :) I'm having a lot of trouble understanding what you mean by this. Could you help a newbie out and explain? Thank you.

Thanks for the welcome. I'm certain my situation is dire to no one but me. I'll just continue to read. Thanks.

I feel kind of weird posting an introduction when I can't even really put a finger on why it is that I am here? I have been involved in poly relationships (with varying degrees of success and failure) for about the last ten years. When my relationships are working fine, like a lot of guys, I...