Recent content by RockerChick

As a reminder, I'm still new at this, so ... Of course, it's V-Day. I'm not much for celebrating Hallmark Holidays, and my primary/hubby, Danny, and my bf, Michael, know this. And since this poly thing is so new to all of us, I agreed with Danny to stay home with him this evening (and not see...

Thanks! Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I can't even imagine how you dealt with losing a spouse to Alzheimer's. It must've seemed like a Godsend to have your friends save you! :) I haven't created the next post I referred to as things change rapidly in this group, but I think I may start a...

Nice to Know Thanks for posting. :) It's nice to know that others know what I'm talking about! My hubby-primary is now going through bouts of jealousy, but he's doing okay. I'm going VERY slow. My BF is also sensitive to my husband's needs right now. It was a rough couple of days, but he...

Suddenly Realizing You're Poly - how did you cope? Realizing I'm poly is still new to me, and I'm a little unsure how to deal with it appropriately as of yet. I really don't understand how I could have fallen in love with another man while being VERY happily married to another. The two...

Soul Mates & Twin Flames Tried to read through the blog post, but couldn't get past the declarations about how many people any one soul can hook up with. Maybe I misunderstood it (I re-read it but still didn't quite get your meaning). In my case, I believe I have a soul mate hubby, Danny, and...

Feelings of Guilt Still enjoying the new trio, but wow, is it hard sometimes! :eek: LOL ... Danny, my "Lion" (tall, blonde hair, Nordic Viking type), and Michael, my "Twin" (my height, dark curly hair, Celtic Warrior type) are needing some time apart, which I understand. That leaves me having...

It's Possible Yes, it looks like things are changing fast! :) So far, so good. I think Danny's feelings were temporary. Go figure.

Thanks Thanks for the link and the advice. They have since talked about it. It went very well, actually. :) Michael told Danny his boundaries, and Danny is dealing with it. For now, things seem a bit more stable. I hope it lasts. :cool:

Here's a new development in my V that has confused the hell out of me. My husband, who is a sort of closet bisexual, has realized he is strongly attracted to my lover, Michael, who has also been his close friend. Michael, however, is hetero. These feelings were only realized very recently, so...

Take Care of Yourself I gotta admit, I'm with WhatHappened on this one. This is only my opinion based on your side of the story, of course, but a guy who will not have sex with you but will not break up with you, will not respect your feelings about other relationships, etc., is clearly not...

Emotional Volatility I can see how that would be EXTREMELY important for me, and I'm the "hinge" in this case. If we ever decided to cohabitate, I'm sure I would need my own room (I was raised as an only child) to occasionally get away from the demands such a situation would present. Were you...

I Get It Now Thank you all very much for your input! This is the first forum I've ever been on where my actual questions were answered. What a concept! :D When thinking about this "alone time" issue, I kept deferring to Danny, because I couldn't justify (yeah, I know) why spending time with...

Okay, I have a new issue that I have no idea how to handle. :confused: (Hopefully, this links to my first post about my triad here.) Michael, my new boyfriend, and close friend of Danny, my husband, has asked me for our first "alone time" overnight this weekend. In the past, it has always been...

Working Toward Security Thanks for the feedback, Kevin. :) I've already had that talk with Danny, though it seems we need to do it a few more times. That's ok. I can imagine this must be difficult for him, even though this was kind of his idea in the first place. But now that we're in this, I...

Valentine Schmalentine I'm with most of the others here. Valentine's Day isn't worth celebrating. It was designed by marketers to sell candy and cards. One more way the corporations are trying to rule our lives. I can sense the excitement in your post. It's a great feeling to have two lovers...