Recent content by rory

Okay, so, not written for a long time. Been busy working on my mental health issues. I had a really bad depression for a few months, but I'm doing a lot better and working actively to adopt habits conductive to well-being. Additionally, a lot of life has happened. I have a steady job and income...

Yes, poly is awesome! Feeling it so much. <3

There's also another alternative, I suppose, with regards to new interests: even if I am interested, and even if I like them, and want them, and all that, I don't need to do anything about it. I have pretty much no experience of that option. In fact, my practice with it is so minimal that I...

Okay, so, there's hormones happening all around, and I think I need to address this. Rationally, I don't want anything new. Emotionally, I don't want anything new. I want to press pause on nearly everything romantic/sexual right now. Of course, that's not really how people work, that's not...

Thank you Nadya, that's lovely to hear! :) ** With Alec, our last months living together went surprisingly peacefully. For a few weeks it was pretty bad, I felt trapped at home, but then it got easier. We're keeping in touch quite a lot since he moved, it's nice. :) It's been strangely...

Mya and I are having our three year anniversary. Three years! Coolest. I want to write about that :) There's been a lot in three years. Half of that was pretty extreme long distance, and half we've now been in Dream City. Many, many "external" things have happened that we've gone through...

This is a good goal, whenever dealing with difficult emotions. However, I think it won't happen at once. These kind of intermediary steps are probably vital, where you let yourself feel the ugly without beating yourself up about it. I think it's definitely good that you're processing these...

So, that's something cool about the possibility of living together: living with Mya, and all that brings for us and our relationship. That's definitely something I'm looking forward to. I'd also quite like to get to know Hank more, and living together would present opportunities for that. I...

Living together with Mya has been, for such a long time, something that could happen at some point, but because it hasn't been a real possibility, I've focused on all the great aspects of our relationship as it is. We do get our relationship needs met, and there's so much that she brings into my...

I want to write about living together, too! I and Mya and Hank living together, that is. At first we were thinking that I'll stay at their place for a few months and then I'll move out, but the more all of us think about it and talk about it, it seems more and more likely that it'll be a more...

fuchka, thank you! What you write about Alec is true. I am proud of us both how far we've come with communication, both individually and together. It's even more now that we're breaking up: for a long time we've both avoided focusing on our incompatibilities, and now they're all surfacing a lot...

Thank you :) I am reminded, as well. Even then, when I read about you and Davis, there were sentiments I could relate with. They have only increased since, and so here we are. I am sure it is for the best. And yes, I am excited. Sometimes afraid, as well, but that's not just because of this...

Another thing I've been thinking about a lot lately is relationship escalator and what I kinds of relationships I want. Here's a great article about relationship escalator: http://solopoly.net/2012/11/29/riding-the-relationship-escalator-or-not/ So far, I have mostly only experience of...

I want to write about sex with men. Several interrelated, rather complicated things come together under that topic - relating to my gender discomfort/dysphoria, my relationship with Alec, and other (potential) male partners. I'll start from One Penis Policy which Alec and I have (or it's some...

wildflowers, thanks for your comment! :) Over the years, I've thought a lot about the issue you mention, about a particular image how marriage is supposed to look like. We've changed it a lot; ours looks quite a bit different, though when we got married (about 5 years ago), it was closer to...