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*laugh* Yeah, I'm pretty sure it is.

I think this is why I prefer to see it in terms of potentially-analogous human relationships. I don't feel for my two children the way I'd feel about two rare coins. :) I can see analogies in my deep love for my children with my love for my partners: love of one child does not negate, lessen...

As I mentioned several months ago, I'm a cradle Catholic (parochial schools and all) in the process of "swimming the Tiber" to the Anglican communion. One of my partners is a second-generation Unitarian Universalist, and the other two are also cradle Catholics of the parochial-school set. One is...

The love the two of you have for each of your children does not diminish or undo the love you have for the other(s). Love for multiple partners really is quite similar in this (or at least it is for me): one does not change or lessen the other. Each is precious and unique, and built upon unique...

*laugh* No. No Superwoman. Just a person lucky enough to have two very wonderful live-in partners, and a not-live-in partner who also is a marvelous support to me/us. :) Thanks, everybody, for the welcome!

Oh, I definitely agree with ALL of this. :)

Well, I would argue that one CAN BE polyamorous AND a cheater (just as one can be ostensibly monogamous and a cheater), but the two are certainly not synonymous. My polyamorous ex-husband certainly cheated on me, although he didn't need to. :) However, in my book, a person who is in a...

Well, the one that immediately springs to mind certainly considers him/herself a poly expert even it s/he never utters the words out loud. Unfortunately, a lot of other people think this about him/her as well, which is why I find that kind of preaching/scolding/evangelizing so annoying...

"A Room with a View" But that would have required E.M. Forster to write a different book.

Is this the show that is looking for a thin (not necessarily fit, but absolutely not fat) polyamorous family? ;)

Welcome! One of my spouses is Buddhist, and I've practiced zazen with him for many years.

It's weird, because I've been in the same community as Matisse for years (a couple of years longer than she has, in fact), and while I see a few "One True Way" folks in the poly community, I've seen them more often in the BDSM community there. I see TONS of "One True Way" folks online, and...

Hola, all! I'm back after a few months, after being reminded of this board's existence (grad school and two kids have a tendency to knock information out of my head). As I mentioned before, I'm a long-term polyamorist-type with two spouses (ten years), a long-term partner outside of the triad...

And today is our eighth anniversary of being in love with one another. We call it "Catch Up Day," because he fell in love first ,and I had to catch up. I am so very, very happy.

Well, "polyfuckerous" doesn't have "amor" in it. ;-) I have had quite a few friends-with-benefits in the past, most of whom are still dearly beloved friends. I've also had various playful, enjoyable, light encounters with people with whom I had no intention of becoming deeply involved, and...