Recent content by rubyrae

Relationship requirements Okay, yesterday I saw a poly-friendly therapist and she advised the same, Galagirl. So last night I spent hours drafting a list of relationship requirements. I'm feeling pretty good about them - they are mostly about openness and honesty, and a couple about fluid...

One more thing In response to Galagirl's suggestion to articulate what I want and don't want (sorry, quotes not working on my phone), I wanted to say that I'm reluctant to do that because of how limiting it can be. Even on this forum, I've read people's posts saying not to try to predetermine...

Validated, but sad You know that feeling when a bunch of people tell you you're right for feeling icky about something your bf does but then you kinda just want to defend him? Yeah, that's what I'm feeling now, probably because while you've all read about the icky stuff, there's also been some...

Thanks - a long response! Thanks for your responses. I wrote out a long detailed history, but then I realized it probably wasn't all necessary and actually was more about just me needing to be cathartic. Then, I actually ended up writing out a super long response anyway! :):eek: In general...

Hi! I'm relatively new to polyamory. I started dating someone a few months ago and while I wasn't looking for this, I'm trying to be open and allow myself to grow and learn about myself. It's been really hard, mostly because while he tells me that "being poly is all about communication," he...