Recent content by saltandredpepper

Sorry about that, I did read your helpful references and tried to post a reply but must have missed the approval or been timed out since it never showed up on the thread. Initially my need for distance was for a day or two, but it's gotten easier every time. After her last overnighter i was...

A month and a half later I've initiated many of your suggestions, thank you very much, and have enjoyed the local music scene, though M (nesting partner) often comes too making it a little harder to project availability. I also found a Meetup polyamory group two hours away and am planning to go...

Your sharing does give me hope, and I've become less frantic about her having a new local lover, though I still don't like to be home while she's visiting him. I start doing things around the house or gardens and end up feeling resentful. It's helped a lot to start a new massage/osteopathic...

Very useful, especially defining attraction and sharing mine. TU!

Getting out Thanks for the insights, going out to hear music is doable in this small but artsy town. I might try leaving the ring home and actually talking to people. I just read the chapter on dating in More Than Two and the authors recommend dating only polyamorous people, which sounds good...

I've had some recent frustration with beginning dating as a married couple and am wondering how others might deal with the situation. My life partner and I live in a small town and lead public work lives that make us need discretion about having a newly open relationship. She's found a guy who...

I was wondering when my wife would see this thread. :-) Well? (Let's talk soon when said children go back to college) Salt loves Sea

Thanks for the welcome note Kevin T, it's to be back exploring the possibilities for love and life beyond monogamy. srp

Hello out there, it's good to be back on the forum after a couple year hiatus. My wife and I are a currently single bisexual polyamorous couple who live and work on a small herbal medicine farm in southeast West Virginia. My forum name is from the dash of red in my now greying beard as well as...

Yes Redpepper, and I love it that beauty and elegance have entered this thread. Well Chicks, here's a midstream update. I've floated the idea of my leaving town when the metamour visits and it caused quite a stir for those two - rejection, guilt, anger, accusations, mistrust, doubt - but is...

Inny or outy, either way is good for us as long as it's mutually respectful with shared life goals and earth based spirituality. Does that make us both bi? Either way, giddyup horsey! So how does it work out in the end when each partner dates separately? I can feel myself detaching some from...

Hey, thanks for the understanding, Anneintherain (love that name!). She would like the two of us guys to be friends and allies and that is the biggest reason she would rather I didn't leave when he visits. My partner who's also on this forum as Mara reminded me that she had broken up with her...

Thanks for the quick responses, nycindie and leannahope. As requested, here's the skinny. She's been involved with him three years, two as her distance primary and one as a secondary since I entered the picture as her local partner ten months ago. He's visiting for two weekends at the turn of...

I'd appreciate any advice on dealing with the time when my primary partner has private bedroom time with her long-distance secondary in our house. My response of jealousy, hypervigilence, and insomnia during his last visit was not good for any of us.