Recent content by serenityruler

Thank you, everyone, for your input. On the bright side for me, you're not all in complete agreement, because then I'd feel that I really am in the wrong. I'm a little confused about those saying that John shouldn't be telling me all this stuff. Yes, he wasn't upset this particular time, but he...

God, I don't even know where to start. Basic layout I guess. I'm female (bi) and I have a boyfriend (also bi) and he has a wife. The two of them have been together for 5-6 years, he and I have been together a year now. Until recently, his wife also had a boyfriend for roughly a year and a half...

When you say maintain being The Couple, would that be referring to hierarchical? I don't fully know how hierarchical works. I get the premise, but when I try to think how it would apply to us, I get a little fuzzy on the concept. I mean, if I'm his secondary, can he still be my primary? Is it...

Hi, Lunabunny, I think it has a lot to do with my depression. I've tried to be on an online forum for depression and I just felt I couldn't be open enough about the poly aspects. Hopefully poly people are understanding about depression and anxiety. I've had my depression pretty under control...

Hi, Vin, They were poly before, or at least trying for it. I actually initially was dating her, but she's mostly straight and just in denial of it. He's closer to bi and has fooled around some with friends, but I'm the first serious relationship he's had since they got together. I've wondered...

Welcome, Wunderful! I'm new, too. :) I'm a little confused on the triad part. Is it the same partner? And were the two of you previously intimate but now that the partner is just with your husband, that's working better? Or did I misunderstand? Also, Ravenscroft raises some good points. I...

Hey Kraken, I like the idea of everyone having their own rooms, which is weird of me because my boyfriend is currently upset that his wife wants to move into a different room from him. Maybe it's because he knows the reasoning and it's not sleep. You have a lot of ideas, but none of them seem...

Thanks, Kevin. It's just nice to have someone else read all that, and have someone come from a poly perspective. I always second guess people's responses because I feel like it's the poly part they have an issue with, not what's actually going on. You're probably right that I need to sit...

Congrats, Fox! I'm new, too. I'm glad to see not everyone is coming here with problems. Enjoy the NRE and I hope things develop into a deeper, calmer relationship.

Hi, I've read through this forum before when I initially became interested in the idea of polyamory several years ago. Now I've been in a poly relationship for a year and I could use some support. We're a V, though up until recently we were a quad. I was the newest partner. My boyfriend has...