Recent content by SheepMusketeer

I knew M for about 3 years before we married. (Will try to change names later - in a hurry this morning!) We live in a small flat because we currently can't afford anything bigger. The small flat's also been fine for the last 2 years when it was just me! M and I are very compatible in a...

Hi everyone, I posted an introduction to this Forum a few months ago. Here's the short version of what was and now is. M and I have been married since August. I brought up the idea of open relationships in June; the whole idea took him aback and he has been struggling since then to accept that...

Kevin: I'm not sure when we'll be living together again - maybe February. He's looking for a job in academia and they are hard to come by, but even if he doesn't find one he may move in with me to save money etc. This will come with its own issues - it's no fun sitting around at home looking for...

Hi GalaGirl -- thank you for your supportive words and helpful questions. I know that I am protecting myself as much as I feel I'm protecting my husband when I keep my feelings from him. I don't like feeling that I have hurt him or feeling that I have contributed to his feelings of insecurity...

Hi Kevin, Thanks for your reply too. And please let me know if this thread is better moved to a different section of the website. You're very right to say that the gift of an open relationship has to be freely given in order for it to work. After many months of using all the best arguments...

That is true. It came somewhat out of the blue; when I first brought up the idea of open relationships to my partner (I'll call him M) I felt like I was in a very good emotional place - not wanting to be with anyone in particular and without strong feelings for anyone outside our marriage. It...

London, thanks for your quick reply. Yes, I wouldn't be at all surprised by that. It is already difficult as a man to meet up with women, and I think he found it awkward telling new partners that he was engaged/married. Conversely, I found the whole process of actively seeking people in open...

Hi everyone, I'm at the point in my life where I feel I know what I want, but I am struggling to get it, and it is difficult to know where to go next. It is great to see some like-minded people on here who've been through similar issues. Here's the short version: been with my partner for 3...