Recent content by Sikau

I'm afraid I don't have any good answer for you, as I'm in the same position you are in. But I figured I'd at least let you know you're not alone. For now, I'm just taking things day by day. I'm eager to see what perspective and advice others may give on this topic.

Small update So I figured I'd post just a little update, though not a whole lot has changed. I did start seeing my own therapist, just had the second session today. We are still in the laying-it-all-out, history gathering, etc., stage, but I feel comfortable with him. He has come across as...

Grounded Spirit, yes! This is so true, but I think it doesn't matter how hard anyone tries to convince their children of this, it is still a lesson one must learn themselves, usually through trial and error. I try to keep a positive outlook, though, that without all of my experiences, even ones...

Hi polyexplorer! Thank you for commenting. While I'm sorry that you are also in a difficult position, it helps to know that what I'm facing is not entirely unique or unheard of. Nobody wants to feel alone, right? I hear what you are saying about the communication. We try to do that and...

I've considered the limited-time mono thing. I guess you could say I have unofficially been trying it since this whole thing began, especially the last few months. I've devoted quite a bit of time to just living in the moment, pushing poly thoughts out of my head. But they crop up again and...

Grrr, I typed out a whole reply to both of the above posts and then lost it! Anyway, to recap, we have done the couple's counseling, but found (and had confirmed by 2 counselors) that we already have excellent communication skills and it's not a matter of misunderstandings or difficulties...

I put up a post in the Introductions section, in case anyone wants a little background about me before reading this. Any advice, words of encouragement or even a good slap in the face should I need it (metaphorically speaking) would be welcome. I'm happy to answer any questions. I apologize...

Hi everyone...I've been lurking on this site for months now, but have finally decided to come out of hiding and introduce myself. And yes, I've got some issues I could really use advice with, but I'll leave that to my second post I think. I'm a 25 year old female, straight (or maybe...