Recent content by Sille409

How long have you and your wife been working things out? Have you gained back trust?

Dealing with Sharing No it isn't a platonic relationship. There still is romance. My husband is learning how to handle two hearts. He still has a lot to learn. knowing that I am the primary and SHE is the secondary. Many a time he thinks he is doing something so innocent,as he says, but it is...

Dealing with Sharing You both have touch on thoughts I have felt. Yes, fear is definitely one of them. But I really cannot see my life with him in it. We still are best friends. We discussed what could happen if I too find someone else. He said that he would be a hypocrite if he objected...

Thank you for your reply. Although in the beginning I felt the same sentiments you shared I started reading More Than Two in order to learn more about polyamory. My husband has never wavered in showing his love even though one might say that if he cheats how could he really love you. The...

Thank you so much for the above links. The one dealing with jealousy was just what I needed. I'm working on it. I so appreciate the support I have found here.

I am in a similar position. I too have had those same feelings. I sometimes can't tell if I feel it and want to use it to try to convince him that he should only need me. I too am mono. I never thought I would need anyone else. So I don't think I am really helping you. But you should know that...

I'm looking for support. Been married 40 years--wow! Discovered about 9 years ago that my husband was having an affair, well I called it that until I discovered that polyamory exists. He truly says he has never stopped loving me but loves another as well. I will admit I was blown away. I was...