Recent content by SilverSprings

Thanks! Yes- it is good to think through these things and make an agreement. She is sort of a poly-free bird by nature. Like, this is nothing formal, and much more of a organic free relationship thing. We have said we loved eachother, a while ago, and now we just kind of have this long-term...

Alright, alright alright! :) Boyfriend and i had a heart to heart- it went surprisingly well! He outlined what he is ok with (her visiting, us having our time together, traveling, re-kindling, being intimate..) and what he is NOT ok with (her staying in our apt, him being involved esp not in...

Thank you- I never really saw it that way- as a moral issue. It kind of makes sense, because it is something that matters to me. I can't pretend that it doesnt, and it seems he is uncomfortable. However last night he told me he read my email, he honestly had no idea what it was about (he wasn't...

Great! Actually, that is precisely what I just did. I bit the bullet and wrote a preliminary email, to kick off the conversation ;)

Lovebunny- I did not answer your Q! Yes, he knew about her from early on. I told him about her, he even met her briefly over skype once.. He knew that I always told him how I would love to visit her and her country (still would) but it is not the safest place for me and I am not entirely comfy...

thank you! Wow- Excellent replies :) I suppose I can be a little bit impulsive, and that may stem from anxiety based on assumptions on how he would react. Or nervousness causing me to avoid confrontation at all. We have developed a great deep love and communication now, so this should not be as...

​Hi there:) Brief intro: I am a early 30's, divorced bi-female. I am in a newish relationship (2 years) with a great guy, from another country. He knows I am bi, i have tested the waters when we lived separately, opening things up. Not always with fantastic results...but it was a learning...

Setting boundaries in a open relationship My boyfriend and I have decided to outline some boundaries and allow me to play and have light dating with girls outside our relationship (some of you may remember me). I outlined a few points and questions to Frank my bf, and were kind of negotiating...

FullofLove, freaking thank you! That is excellent advice all around. It feels better for me to put the brakes on, slow down and chill the F out. Ahhh... Pressuring myself to make a decision in a way is making me feel crazy. I need to do what feels good for me, and being in a tizzy, I can not...

LoveBunny- that was so interesting and insightful. Thank you for relating and sharing with me!! I think the big differences are that Frank and I dont live together. Sometimes I think it gives me this entitled feeling of freedom. Once I even accidentally told Frank I was/felt single. :eek: Eek...

I figured out the quote feature, sort of. My answers are below. Thank you so much for the time you took to answer and break it down like this, very helpful. *It was my idea, after my breach of trust. to have basic/simple bounds in place. at first, he was totally against...

Dagferi, I know. I should have known better... a habit I am trying to break, as I have done that in the past, too. Thank you for the reminder, though. :) FullofLove, yes, I agree. I know we need to get our shit together. The thing is, Frank will not tell me what to do. I suppose he seems to...

Soooo, I confessed to Frank that I am looking for something on the emotional side with Anna. It was an email, which I thought was very sensitive and gentle. Fast forward a few awkward hours, he called me. I knew he was upset via a text and weird silence. He proceeded to vent and kind of assume...

Magdlyn, thank you. :) I have had light relationships with women, and one girl who I did "love," in a way. We still talk to this day. It was an amazing experience. But I was with my former husband then, and didn't know I would still crave another in my life after my BF and I met. However, that...

Hi, all. I wanted to start fresh here, as I think I have had a breakthrough. I think I am really falling for Anna (the new lady in my life of 1 month). Frank (my BF of 1 yr) sees this. It seems he is trying to understand now. To recap without going too into things: After (with BF's permission)...