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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    It was, in fact, primarily a joke, but let me clarify a few more things while I'm at it. -What I'm looking for is certainly more than NSA sex, but we couldn't be called full-blown polyamory. Neither of us is capable of having sex without some kind of emotional attachment, so romantic feelings...
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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    Just some frustration Sigh. A quick little grumble on my part. Not about my relationship with my girlfriend--that's still going fine. About my attempts to find an outside partner. I'd finally found someone I experienced a mutual attraction with when I went to a festival in October, in a...
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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    Well, first off, we talked about the chatting thing, and that's not even something they had discussed doing prior to him telling me about it. She's not terribly attached to the idea, so we agreed that was off the table, no biggie. What's been interesting is my emotional reactions after he left...
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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    Hahahahahaha! I giggled a few times when reading that, Phy, especially the bit about you being the alpha. ^.^ Well, and dealing with your spleen, since spleen for me is just an internal organ, like a liver or a kidney--I know it means anger or bad moods or something like that for other...
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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    Thanks, Phy! :) Or at least I assume that's a compliment. ;) Out of curiosity, are there any traits in particular that seem familiar? I've started reading your entries, but haven't gotten far yet. I've noticed a pattern now. At night I do get a little sad. Not terribly, just a little...
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    My Poly Dream has be realized. Best Friend and Hubby now dating.

    Wow. This is amazing. I don't have a whole lot more to say than that. I just hope this wonderfulness keeps going!
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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    Awwww, thanks so much for checking back in and sharing your story! Does the nervousness happen every time? Does it seem to get less each time, or is it more or less consistent for you? I'm feeling great, actually! I heard someone mention compersion on a local poly listserv I lurk on, and my...
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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    Thanks, guys! :D Oh yeah. It's uplifting and sort of surprising at the same time. I feel like I just jumped out of a tree and landed on my feet, and now I'm standing there in a crouch going "I'm...I'm okay? I'm okay. Huh. I'm okay!" Sort of halfway nervously waiting for some sort of...
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    First Time She's With Someone Else

    Hello everyone! I posted quite some time ago about the trouble I was having as my partner and I were working into an open relationship. She has previous experience in open relationships and, at one time, a triad, and I hadn't been in anything other than a monogamous relationship (or just...
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    The Newbie's Lament: Trying to Make it Work

    Wow! Thank you so much, TGIG! Those are a lot of the most encouraging things I've heard thus far. It's particularly nice to hear that I'm somewhere in the middle in terms of struggling with polyamory. Like I mentioned before, I don't have much of a scale to gauge this stuff by, so I'm...
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    Greetings!

    I'm an utter newbie here, but I just wanted to say that your life sounds FANTASTIC. :D Congratulations, and good job.
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    The Newbie's Lament: Trying to Make it Work

    Hey guys! Thanks for the responses! dingedheart: And thank you. I really hope it's not a wiring issue, though, and I find that thought pretty disheartening. It's not that poly is totally appalling to me, and I definitely know that I have the capacity to have feelings for multiple people and...
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    The Newbie's Lament: Trying to Make it Work

    I'm sure you've heard variations on this a billion times before, but here I am adding one more: this is both my "hello forum!" post and my "this is scary and halps??" post. So, the background story. I've been with my (awesome, silly, adorable, beautiful, lovable, affectionate, patient...
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