Recent content by Slyfox

Hi Kevin, yes the work crush and H are the same person. Thanks for the book tips.

Update from OP Just following up. Counseling is going well. Between sessions talk and feelings are up and down, feels a bit like a roller coaster LOL. I love him so much and want to be with him the rest of my life, he says the same. I'm getting past my hurt, trying to look forward. I'm still...

I want to thank everyone for their thoughts on our problem and my feelings surrounding it. I appreciate the perspective and it has been helpful (not that I don't still have questions though!). I have a few people to respond to and will as I have time today.

I have questioned myself on if I should be worried about his female relationships but then told myself that it's dumb to even consider, they work together and he'd never do that to me. Has he given me cause to mistrust (other than this situation)? No, not that I know of. No, neither of us has...

Hello Thewind, thank you for taking the time to read my post and replying. They both have told me they have not had sex. With all the lying should I believe this?A part of me is glad I know about their feelings now rather than not at all, another part of me wishes they'd never told me. I truly...

Hello, AutumnLeaves, thank you for the reply. I'm still processing your full reply but wanted to ask a clarifying question. What was "unrealistic about my expectations?" That my husband could work with a woman, be her friend and not fall in love with her? Should I have questioned their...

Thank you for your question. Hmmm, in the time that I did not know about the emotional affair he did not treat me any different. Still loving and everything normal. On vacation I could sense some odd things. Our swinging is not something we are open about. One mutual longtime friend knows (we...

Thank you for your thoughts. My husband says he did not intend to fall in love, that he only realized it after she was let go. He says he was scared to tell me at that time for fear that I'd leave him. I say that it would have been better to do so rather then go to her with this info, keep it...

Thank you for your reply. Perhaps you are correct, but so far in our swinging experience with clear boundaries set, we have done just fine with feelings and sex and our partners. We are also choosing our couples carefully, mature, long term married or attached people that are committed to each...

Some background. My husband of 25+ years and I are newer to recreational FWB full swap swinging, about 8 months. We are very clear that this is an activity we do together. We are both agreed that we will not form feelings of romantic "love" for our swinging partners. It's been a very fun time so...