Recent content by Smalltownoutcast

Tinwen, That's why I ran my plan by y'all first. I think you're very right. I will discuss 1. And 2. with her and not put any pressure on about full poly. Instead of a future date for her to be concerned about, I will remain in very open communication but I don't think I'll be feeling so much...

Tinwen, Yes, that is pretty accurate. Close friends of the opposite sex and any alone time with such friends is considered a violation or threat to monogamy by most people I know, and is rather shamed by both our families.

It could have to do with the dominating religion here, or the small town culture, or maybe just how common cheating is. Family and friends just assume that if you have good friends, you're sleeping with them. We are in our twenties, our better friends are our age but have moved away or are off...

This is correct. I feel like there is an unsaid rule against that in our relationship as well as the relationships of all the people we know. I know it sounds weird on a poly forum. I do have male friends, but none near by any more.

Karen, I would fully deny this, but I have studied Psychology enough to know that I know nothing about myself. I'm curious what the result of this potential phenomenon typically is. Do the many of the men only feel this way during this time? Do the ones that act on it make decisions they later...

Nycindie, I am not in a rush or hurry. I honestly don't think I fit the common situation you are describing although I can see why you would think that. I know that now is not the time to grab an additional relationship and am not wanting to cause even temporary turbulence in the relationship...

Galagirl, Thank you for your response. By "compatible" I meant: able to be the mono in a mono/poly while being happy and mentally healthy. I do accept that she has no interest in being poly herself any time soon, and am ok with that. If that decision is the next step, I intend to wait a while...

CTF, I guess I don't feel like I can ask that question yet because I don't feel like she is educated on polyamory or has given it enough time/consideration. And I'm not sure how to get her to that point as she is not really interested in it. I am, however, happy to give it time, and much...

A closeness with multiple people that most mono people would not consider okay. The freedom to pursue friendship without limits or fear of passing them. It isn't about sex for me at all, however, I know that sex and sexual desire sometimes come with closeness and I wouldn't want to fight that...

Hello all, I have a question that I'm sure has been asked before, but I would really appreciate some situation-specific advice. I want to be poly, but I am very much in love with my current mono wife...where do I start? To further explain the situation. We have been married a few years, we...

Thanks Polyrhythmic, I will definitely check out the meetup groups soon. I have asked her to read it, and it's just not a priority to her right now as she spends most of her reading time learning parenting techniques. I do audiobooks though, and she doesn't, so maybe I'll buy her a copy. Being...

Hey Jeremy, Glad to hear I'm not the only one. Patience seems to be key with my wife. Hoping the best for your situation! We are near Austin.

Hi all! I typed a long intro and it disappeared. (Lucky for you guys) Anyways, I'm a polycurious male in my twenties, happily married for three years with one kid and one on the way. I've read "The Polyamorists Next Door" as well as "More Than Two" and done a lot of research on the subject. I'd...