Recent content by SoManyThoughts

Hey Gang - Because you were all so helpful with this issue, I wanted you to know the final resolution. My GF and I have broken up. We had a crazy weekend that showed me that she wants essentially unfettered freedom to follow her sexual bliss and pursue multiple boyfriend-like relationships. I'm...

Maybe not. Certainly not the way it has played out this go-round. In fact, we decided last night to hit pause on the openness. She had yet another less-than-optimal date over the weekend, which has left her feeling the work isn't worth the reward. The date was also problematic for me as it was...

Thanks to all of you for so much great insight. My current inclination is to tell her that this arrangement - which arose without near enough pre-launch communication - simply doesn't work for me. Because I don't want to be controlling or deny her the benefits she clearly derives from the...

Thank you. Please understand that there was no coercion or male fantasy here. The scenarios I laid out (hotwife, et cetera) were simply the ones that I thought we both envisioned. Had we communicated better and I had understood that she intended to have two or three fully-realized relationships...

I hear you. I guess what I'm grappling with now is how to keep her in my life without being part of an emotional threesome or foursome. That's something, which, in a different context, I told her I did not want at the outset of our relationship years ago.

My girlfriend (F40) and I (M61) have a very long history together. We recently re-shaped our relationship to address some long-term issues between us. This included moving to separate homes and "opening" our relationship. In retrospect, I think our mistake was not communicating in-depth about...