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I’ve been through a period as a nesting partner of no intimacy and told my partner that it made me feel like we were just in domestic partnership and friends. He didn’t see it that way as we still had the odd kisses. My situation though is very different. At the same time I have three...

@Hanky he says he doesn’t have any mates to be vulnerable with. His wife (me) is the only one he has to support him, we talk as his friend not his wife. I’d prefer he go resolve his relationship with his girlfriend if it’s that important to him and I step away - I’ve said this and he just says...

G Galagirl, He tried therapy- is quick to say it doesn’t work and quits. The girl friend said that was part of the reason she was putting them on an indefinite break - he wasn’t doing anything to fix himself. We have financial commitments, children and other responsibilities that make it a lot...

Evie, that’s what I believe the Hiatus on the other side is for to become healthy enough to participate in the relationship again. I fear that in that process ours will disintegrate. Time for me to accept the possible outcome, though I doubt he will give it up. It is on me to put barriers in...

We are married it’s not as easy for me to break up with him as it would be for his girlfriend

H We tried the go out with mates, go out together and meet others but he is so in his headspace of no one wants to know him he is manifesting it. His girlfriend has a chronic health issue that she is dealing with - they have had about 3 hiatus before - this one she has installed no contact. He...

Tha Thanks Evie, Emotional labours - His pain of losing the relationship he had, impacts ours and he isn’t capable of giving in our relationship at the moment. It’s the wallow, the complaining about how no one wants him and I hear that as inclusive of me. I’ve said all of the things you have...

Is there any such thing in other states?

This is complicated I want to help my primary partner who is not dealing with his polyamorous needs not being met imo. He has had an on again off again LTR with someone whom says that they are okay with his poly status but recently felt she could be easily discarded when he and I were fixing...