Recent content by soulseeker

I have. Knowing the couple as I do, I don't think it likely. My understanding is the wife has no interest in sex and has not for many years. In addition, those who have observed the couple describe them (this was even many years ago, before the kids and problems manifested) as seeming to have...

Pretty much, though I'm open to consideration of co-habitation if all parties deem it practical. While the kids are young, I agree that it would not be practical.

Okay, it's obvious that definitions vary wildly among users here, and this is creating a barrier to understanding one another. Unless anybody has something constructive to add, based on facts—not perceptions, opinions, assumptions, etc., just let it go.

Difference of semantics, it sounds like. Appears some people here use terms based exclusively on sexual intimacy, and that's fine. I don't share that perspective. In my view, intimacy can be mental, emotional, spiritual, physical (platonic) or physical (sexual), and there is certainly more to a...

That's your perception perhaps, but it's not accurate. I seek a three-person arrangement, not a two-person one. This particular situation presents compatibility.

Wow. Sure is a lot of negativity and judgment on this forum. For the record, I didn't ask for either. I asked for constructive thoughts as to how to approach this couple about a multi-partner relationship. If I want judgment and condemnation, I'll visit a church, thank you very much.

Again, thanks to those who offered constructive input. Bearing in mind that you folks are not in possession of all the data I have, so some of the assumptions that have been made here are not relevant. There is definitely a communication problem in the marital relationship. She admits this. I...

To clarify, both had been tested by doctors and were told they were infertile. I don’t detect that there was any irresponsibility on either part. Seems more a case of dumb luck with poor follow-up after the fact. I agree, there were options after the fact, but none were pursued. That none of...

Thanks for the various insights. There is much to consider. There are also other factors I did not mention in my initial post, factors that bring the legitimacy of the marriage itself into question. I’m not convinced, based on information from the wife, that this was ever more than a...

My situation: A married friend invited sex a year ago. He has been married for 16 years. We have been friends for as long, less 1-2 months. There has always been mental, emotional, and spiritual (philosophical) intimacy between us. We share many passions and interests and have shared many...