Recent content by SouthernGal

Awesome! You've obvioussly done a great job. Kudos to you!

First, remember that it's okay to feel jealous or envious. It's natural. Next, be honest with your hubby. Anticipating sexy time then having it given to someone else can be hurtful. I would advise finding a calm way to tell your husband that 1) you are envious that they can have sexy moments...

I meant to reply to your post on the Alabama post earlier and forgot. My memory is not my strong point. lol Alabama can be a tough state for anyone outside the norm. The whole darn place is the Bible Belt. I've lived here all my life and just accept it as it is. I'm in the closet as far as...

Yes, she did state that she had told him why she thought it was inappropriate, and proposed instead having sex after the kids were down for the night. He chose to proposition his gf despite that, and run off privately. Frankly, I would have been unhappy, as well. It's blatantly disrespectful...

I'm not sure there's really that much difference from any relationship opening up. I don't even think the issues are that different, though there will be different issues of importance depending on the people involved. I made some forays into trying out poly for myself, but its just not...

It's a positive step that you now know where it started. I've read a lot of those posts. The truth is, I don't see how anyone can justify leaving someone they love in a crisis so they can have romantic time. It doesn't matter whether a partner is primary or secondary or tertiary, if they need...

Leo surprises me sometimes. When he asked if it was okay to go further with K this week,I worked hard to stay upbeat and open and said yes. I want him to be happy. My discomfort is mine to deal with. My issues are mine. Yes, I think she's flighty, but I haven't told him that. I like her...

I'm cheering for you. I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with, but I sincerely hope it works out for you.

Stop questioning whether you're being unreasonable. That's pointless. She has every right to ask you to do something, and you have every right to say no. No one is being unreasonable. You know the consequences of saying no: she says it's over. You can respect that, right? Some people can be...

I'm in Georgia on business, and it's been tough on me. I've never liked traveling away from my family, but it's the first time I've traveled more than a couple of days since we opened up. The last time I traveled like this was over 6 years ago. Knowing Leo is at home and free to spend more...

Polybynature, the truth is, this situation is just "normal" to me. I remember questioning why my grandfather didn't leave, but that was maybe 10 years ago, the last time. They are old, they need each other, and I don't have to live there. That said, I don't tolerate listening to them snipe at...

I'm cool with up to 6 months. Leo, however, is a 3rd date kind of guy. He actually waited until the 4th date (1 month) with me, but I'm different from most women he's known. I'm kind of weird. :p I'm glad you feel like you're moving forward and hope it all goes well for you!

My grandparents are like that. My grandfather wants to have at least some kind of emotional relationship with her, but she can't stand him. However, she needs him to help care for her, he likes the respectability of being her husband, and both would lose social standing if they split up. They...

A bit over 4 years ago, I moved to a city 250 miles away. I had family, but no friends and was very lonely. You are definitely missing him, but you likely also crave other adults to interact with. LR and NYC made great suggestions. Think about things you enjoy or are involved with. If you're...

I'm alive! Walking pneumonia has been kicking my tail, but I'm finally feeling better. I thought I'd pop in to update. I went on a date a few weeks ago, but was disapponted. Isn't that how it goes? I just didn't like or trust him. I caught him lying a couple times, then he flat out admitted...