Recent content by SpaceCat

AHHHHH! Noooo-- it's so much more than that. I do not feel seen or heard or validated in this relationship!! I feel like a piece of furniture sometimes. I hate it. Theres a YouTube video about emotionally unavailable partners that describes my situation 100%. I nearly cried watching it because...

Hey Galagirl :) What you said here: ... is just so freaking spot on. That's exactly how I feel, and sometimes I feel like there must be something wrong with me. And that's what's led me here. Sooooo many failed relationships in my past, and now this one. If I can't be poly and I can't be...

Those are my thoughts exactly <3

Hi there. :) Thanks for responding. I appreciate your perspective. I think I have pretty great communication skills. I am trained as a therapist and have experience using and teaching things like NVC, active listening and empathic responding. I have to admit those are harder to implement in my...

Oh boy. Your last sentence really made me pause... I guess I am working on getting up the nerve to bring it up to him... trying to figure out the best way to say it. I'm thinking of trying to put it in a way that makes it sound like it might be good for BOTH of us, like, "Wouldn't YOU like the...

Hello! I have been tossing and turning at night, thinking about bringing up the subject. I am TERRIFIED he will be hurt, feel betrayed, be angry. I DO NOT think he would want to try poly. I mean, is it POSSIBLE? Yeah... but extremely not likely. I cannot predict how I would feel if he had...

Hello. Thank you so much for your response! Yes, we've been mismatched from Day 1. I never meant to move in with him. It was kind of a thing of necessity at the time and then we grew on each other and got comfortable. I do love him, but we are massively different. I tried to be very open and...

HI thanks for your thoughtful response!! Ill try to answer most of your questions.... We have a lot of communication problems, on both sides. My partner never apologizes for anything and that creates a level of resentment inside me. I think both partners need to take some accountability in any...

I think it's really important to ask yourself if you did try a monogamous relationship... what are the odds you will be content with that in 5 years? 10 years? Same person every time? Really get honest with yourself because mono relationships have a way of sucking you in and (excuse my harsh...

I'm 44, female. I've been in many monogamous relationships. I'm currently in one, going on 3.5 years. I'm finding myself in the same predicament as in every other relationship: problems, lost sexual interest due to monotony and feeling stifled, along with a mismatch in sexual style with my...