Recent content by Sparklepie

As long as YOUR partner respects your relationship there's sfa anyone who's in a relationship with them can do about it. I trust my partners to do what is best for them and to be kind to me in the process. If someone is going to rope them away then I'm afraid they want to be roped. My partners...

I undertook a serious processing weekend with a partner. We pulled everything apart in our relationship and talked about everything and have found a way forward. I'm grateful to poly for showing me ways to think outside the box. There are so many more options than just stay (the way things are)...

Unfortunately arrangements set out ahead of time like primary/secondary work fine until they don't for someone. He's sending you a pretty strong message that he won't accept the primary/secondary model. It's up to you if you chose to stay in a structure that isn't working for you. There isn't...

As the "skinny" other partner in a similar dynamic I just want to say that it end up sucking all round when people start playing the comparison game. We see the people we love as more than the body that they're in. Your boyfriend sees you as more than a body. You're a whole person to him and so...

How about just hanging out with people who have the same interests as you rather than searching for a partner? Be open about who you are and maybe, over time, something will develop naturally. I think we forget, as poly people, that most relationships just evolve and that we don't need to be...

For sure, I'm thinking a few months. Years isn't going to happen. As for looking for other potential romantic opportunities, I'm not one to seek out relationships. I'm open to them if and when they happen. I figure we meet the people we meet when we're supposed to.

If I do work out a time limit on how long I'm willing to go along with the situation as it is would that be something I would communicate to them or is that something best kept to myself? I don't want it to come across as pressure for change since really it's about me taking care of me. But then...

This is pretty much the conclusion that I've come to as well. I've been thinking over what that time frame is going to be. I don't have that answer yet. As for being secondary, I'm very aware that's the case. That's something I am OK with. I have my own primary relationship as well and...

I'm going to work on getting the words out on the story that I alluded to here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=69455 The background is that I have been close friends with a couple for quite some time. About a year ago it became evident that there was a mutual attraction...

Hello all, I am new to the forum but not new to poly. I have been actively living poly for the past 6 years. I have been married for many years and have 2 children. During the time we have been actively poly I have been involved in 3 other relationships. There have been many good times and a lot...