Recent content by SparklePony

Oh and I've noticed a lot of mixed feelings to the whole "primary" / "secondary" usage. Most of the consensus being that people don't like referring to anyone as "secondary", but that the labels are indeed useful in describing the technicalities of the relationship... I would find it helpful...

Silly side terminology... Say you're married and have a partner outside of wedlock. You're spouse's parents are your "inlaws" Which makes you're partner's parents your "outlaws" hehe! Not that you would ever call them that to their faces...or that parents really need to know what's going...

Some of your communication issues sound related to the natural differences between how men and women communicate. I just returned from a Women's Weekend workshop (focused on monogamous relationships but a lot of the same ideas apply) and we learned a lot about communication between the sexes...

Oh and another label I guess I'm working on is Bi... and I feel about the same way towards Bi as I do Poly...I definitely like it but I probably wouldn't do it on my own. I've always been attracted to men, but as I'm still young I've been exploring my sexuality with women. I've only been with...

Thanks SchrodingersCat, Yes I totally identify with you say about labels helping find clarity in times of confusion. I resist labels but they are often necessary for communication. I work with brand development so choosing what labels you want to identify with can be very important. An extra...

I received my BA in Anthropology from NYU and the nerd in me want's to discuss polyamory from the scientist's side of things. Please indulge me and share your thoughts! *Note: I don't have my books or sources in front of me, but here are some takeaways from my studies... Homo Sapien sexuality...

From what I've read monos are hard wired for monogamy seem to have a hard time accepting poly. But when I started reading about poly it all made a lot of sense to me and seemed natural... Left to my own devices I probably wouldn't go through the extra effort it takes to bring new partners into...

Follow up Thank you for all your support, it's been 2 months now and I thought I would post an update...It's been a very interesting ride that would make for an excellent romantic comedy filmed in a tropical location. When P returned he was in a cloud of NRE and not sure of anything, either...

Not mono but not poly, what is my poly identity? How do I "label" my relationship? I believe in Abundant Love, but I'm not sure how to define my poly identity. In fact I may not be poly at all. I do not feel any needs or desires to have multiple partners and can be completely satisfied in a...

That last response was to LovingRadience and then I saw London's response... I know it seems inherently doomed so how can I communicate to my partner the dangerous ground he is treading?

Olive Branch I would love to be friends with M if possible... I think she is brave for being willing to try in the tiniest bit. I think she would be less afraid if she could trust both me and P. I understand she must be going through insecurities because she worked as a model. The fashion...

Poly Partner + Business Partner I acknowledge that underlying problems with our relationship are expressing themselves through pain because P and I have not created healthy space in the relationship (codependent?). 90% of our business happens in the summer months and we just finished our most...

This is why Poly should be in Sex Ed! So you're saying that even by poly standards I should not be putting up with this behavior? The thing is while we've been poly for 4 years we have had no structure or support from knowing what it means to be poly, or mono, or mono/poly. (Wish they talked...

Greetings Poly Community! I am so glad to have found you. I have been in a poly relationship for 4 years but until a few days ago I never knew the word. My man and I are going through a challenge...our relationship has been mostly about unicorns (I have no desire to date outside but it's also...