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Awesome response , very helpful and thanks very much for your time on this subject :)

ugg my first night with my wife staying with her BF was terrible for me lol. I was a wreck and I didn't sleep at all. I wanted her to go and have fun but I just couldn't get it out of my mind and I couldn't seem to distract myself enough lol. I went and played pool for hours and went out to...

Thanks everyone, this is all great stuff to read. I'm glad I found this forum. Maybe I'll use this forum as a distraction next time lol. Just might work haha. I still look forward to hearing more about how others have managed to deal with this :-) incase what I've heard so far doesn't work lol...

now that is sound advice, I like that you seem to see it the way I do lol. if I was doing a hobby , I would still be missing her while I was doing that hobby :P I tried working out and while I was at the gym with my music playing, I didnt even hear the songs cause my mind was so wrapped up in...

thanks that's much appreciated :);)

Yes ive even been to one meeting :P

guess im just trying to see if anyone is going through this or has in the past and has any sage wisdom :P

yeah a friend over could work, just wasn't possible those nights. we are trying the just get used to it idea lol, we call it exposure therapy lol. so far it hasn't worked but time will tell.

Its not every weekend, just one so far and before that she was away for one night durring the week. I couldnt sleep that night at all, felt stressed out the whole time lol. the weekend was the worst, I guess more time made it worse. Im hoping I can work through soon cause she is not happy with...

well just to clarify she goes out on dates with him to dinner and such and they get intimate later at his house, im fine with all that, for some reason though when she stays the night and I know she isn't coming home, it really bothers me. ive been trying to figure out why this is something that...

I've gotta chime in here cause this is an issue I'm currently having. I have a new GF and a wife. The first time I was with the GF a few weeks ago, I couldn't get hard, even though I was really excited to be with her. Then it happened again, and now it's happening with my wife, as well. I am...

Nice to meet you as well :-)

my wife and I consider ourselfs Poly. we both have dated other people, recently though my wife found a guy she loves, she spends as much time with him as possible and that's great .... but also she wants to start staying the night with him .... weekends and such. I am having a hard time dealing...