Recent content by SpoofyCups

Thanks so much for your advice. This forum seems to be a safe, respectful environment to explore ideas new to me and unpopular with most people I know.

I see that I put an apostrophe where it doesn't belong in my title for this thread. I hate that kinda thing. I can figure out how to fix it!

So I took some advice given here, and advanced the dialogue somewhat last night. I didn't mention that I had someone in mind. Baby steps! I talked about what makes me uncomfortable about one-night stands, and the reasons why I think doing this with someone I know already is actually less...

Thank you, everyone. Everything said here was helpful. GalaGirl, you were able to boil it down so simply! I do value honesty, but I don't feel like it's the time to bring this into the open yet. Too early. Also, in general, I do reserve the right to a private life. For the time being, little...

Argh! Well thank you, BreatheDeeply. I know you're right about communication. I have many fears of telling BF what's in my head. I'm afraid he'll react badly, then I'll feel awkward whenever bump into my Old Flame guy. I'm afraid BF will feel threatened in a way he doesn't need to. I'm working...

Hi. This is my first post. Since my boyfriend and I got together 2 1/2 years ago, we have been discussing having an open relationship. It's a sensitive topic, as I'm sure you all know, and takes lots of respectful negotiation. Neither of us have yet to act on this, and that's okay. He came very...