Recent content by Ssebo

Don't feel guilty D, thank you for doing this, and joining A and me here. I really appreciate it, and so does A. Yes, it's me, S, me who hurt the two women I love so much and inflicted this pain. Not intentionally, but out of fear, or confusion, just as D? No, not confused. D will remember me...

well said Thanks T, very well "sensed"... and said... and yes, you are absolutely right. I cheated by having an affair which I disrespected too by lying about the cheating. I feel that's about what it was. I hurt my wife and disrespected what I had with D. I guess it's up to me now to support...

Words Redpepper, you are right. It's semantics, and time is relative, and besides, it does not change the fact that I cheated, betrayed my wife's trust and hurt everyone along the way. That is acknowledged and I take responsibility. The word affair, in the usual context, has something "passing"...

Ouch... but thank you Snecail, thank you for replying. I do value your opinion. Quite simply, an affair is defined as "a romantic or passionate attachment, typically of limited duration," and this does not feel like that. Some could argue though, as it originates from the French "a faire," to...

"Affair" Thank you, Redpepper. I may be on the way to be a "spiritual man." Still a long way to go, and obviously, considering the "cheatin," not that enlightened yet, as I know now I could have chosen a different path to get to this point. Why do I hate the word "affair"? Well, I do in this...

It's a funny life Thank you, GS. You are right to the point. Most of the time, we wander through life wondering and feeling something else is there that we can not explain, until much later... It is the third time for me to (re)discover emotional freedom and attempting to disregard societal...

acceptance Thanks, TB. I do see where you are coming from. I do accept the fact that I cheated or was "The Cheater," and yes, it hurts, and I wish I would/could have been open about all from the beginning and enjoyed all moments truly with Seeker and D. As it stands now, Seeker is actually not...

Sorry, just noticed makes only half sense without this... http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3997

I am ashamed for the hurt I caused by keeping this to myself whilst wanting to share the experience with seeking (A). Thanks to all who contributed so far. I'm sure A appreciates and so do I. I am also sure, that D will appreciate, knowing she "signed up" too. So yes, we are all THREE here...