Recent content by SweetScarlet

Updates! But I still feel like an asshole. Progress! Sort of. Huge Halloween party at DomGuy's house went off without a hitch, and my husband remarked that he felt no aggression or bad feelings towards DomGuy, and since then we've been seeing a fair amount of him and his primary at various...

Hey guys, I'm feeling really hopeful today! I took a few days of journalling and editing and composed an email that addressed a lot of my state of mind and fears and thoughts and apologies of the last year, including how it feels like he's saying I can stay friends with DomGuy and his circle...

Those are great links, Galagirl, thanks! I hadn't seen the PolyHell one before. I would really love to do counseling, but I don't think we can afford it, and the only poly-friendly option in our area doesn't take insurance. I have a feeling having a sexual relationship with DomGuy in...

Maybe I need to be more specific with my inquiry. How can I reconnect with and reassure my husband when I'm still feeling distant and frustrated? How can I gently move forward with my relationship with DomGuy if my husband dislikes him so much and it causes him so much anxiety? Has anyone else...

A lot of time has passed since my last post here http://polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=73533 To recap, my husband and I have been swingers for years, but I was becoming dissatisfied with that for various reasons, and became interested in having a (BDSM focused, originally) relationship...

Thanks everyone for your responses! There's some things I needed to hear. He does not disagree with poly as a concept, but he has always stated it's "too much time and effort". Which I took as a matter of practicality rather than an emotional refusal, to my chagrin. We have many close friends...

I'm not getting the type of response I need so I guess I need to be more specific. I need help in how to address my partner's feelings of jealousy and reluctance to open our relationship in a new way, while still making my desires known. How do I reassure him, but also let him know that I DO...

GalaGirl, it's not (on the surface anyway) about the BDSM, except that he is feeling inadequate, that he isn't enough to satisfy me. I'm not sure how to proceed conversationally, as I need to reassure him, but I also want to pursue this. I don't know how to express my needs without hurting him...

Background: My husband and I have been swinging for almost 8 years, happily, with no issues. We usually have regular couples with whom we are close friends whom we sleep with usually together, but sometimes separately. A few months ago we met this poly couple through a BDSM site (we're trying...