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Thank you for this reply it's really, really helpful!! Don't worry your phrasing was not awkward :) I agree with everything you're saying. I too already have herpes, though I've never done the test to find out if it's HSV 1 or 2. More likely HSV 2 since it's genital, and I much prefer having it...

Thank you for this reply and for your advice! I'm sorry to hear that you're in this situation, of having no choice but to take a medication which might affect your fertility. I hope everything works out for you. Have you already had a second opinion? Maybe there is another treatment course out...

Also the fact that all his (cis female) partners got tested and didn't have this STI means it more than likely entered the couple through me, because while my partners got tested too and didn't show for it either, they are almost all (cis) men and it doesn't necessarily show up on a guy's test...

Ok it's good to know that despite the 3 of you potentially having it, the antibiotics did their job. I don't know how many times I have to say this but my partner always uses condoms with other people. Always. He is literally the most honest person in the world, to the point where it is a flaw...

I'm scared that by risking STIs I will worsen my already rubbish fertility and I wanted to hear from people who might have had similar concerns. Whether or not we'll do things differently is a discussion we'll have when our treatment's finished and I'm feeling less emotional, but as I said in my...

Thank you Kevin T for your input :) And I at no point said I was afraid to address these concerns...I already said despite us being very careful we will certainly be reviewing our safe sex practices and we discuss them regularly, just that this thread wasn't really about that it was more about...

Yes I have heard about that! Luckily our partners are well educated (they have for the most part always been non monogamous so they've always had to think about it). In fact one of them makes her living out of sexuality and sexual health. They're just a lot more relaxed about it so I feel like a...

We will definitely be reviewing our safe sex practices but no matter how careful we are this is always going to be a more risky lifestyle choice than monogamy (at least monogamy where partners are faithful!) and I want to know other people's perspectives

I understand! But I just have no particular worries with regards to our safe sex practices. This is only the second time I've caught it and since he wasn't systematically treated the first time round there's really no saying whether or not it's him who infected me both times or even if he...

Haha thank you for the input from an academic's point of view! I appreciate it! definitely a topic for another thread :)

I might also abstain from sexual relationships with other partners until I've had children, but I wonder how many will stick around when the sex stops...

Don't worry our partners all already know. But it's a really tricky infection to test for, in men it can be hidden away in the testicles so...good luck testing for that with a urine test! With women it's a lot easier (swab test). I hadn't heard of it before either, it's very little known. I...

Not at all hesitant, I just didn't want to derail the conversation. But since you're being insistent...My partner and I use condoms for PIV sex with our other partners and are generally careful (for example we don't use gloves but we do make sure each hand only touches one person's genitals). We...

That's definitely neither the subject of the thread nor what I said. Plus condoms are not without risk. They've not yet invented the entire-body-condom...