Recent content by TequilaMockingbird

Some more thoughts on the boring thing.... I finally got him to talk a little bit about it. I've been nervous and confused, because ... well, I have a pretty broad repertoire. I like to wake him up with oral sex, I'm down for some bondage and spanking if he's in the mood, I like a lot of...

Thanks, sparklepop - that does help. And just to clarify, I've never looked for their messages or asked to read them - in fact, I asked him to set up a separate account that I didn't have access to, for their privacy and for my sanity. It's just this particular message, that for some horrible...

Well, crap. The roller coaster continues, and I should have known better than to think it was all clear ahead. GF and Finch had a funny, witty little email exchange, and he read me one of her responses. 99% fine, but in the middle was a fairly explicit joke about her favorite position with...

Maybe she got cold feet? I think a lot of people do this - plan to meet someone, then freak out when it dawns on them it's real and not just cyber chat stuff. In any case, I'm sorry it made you feel bad.

So, I'm not sure if anyone recalls since I'm so new, but I went through the apparently pretty typical poly journey of cheating partner/discovery/hellacious fighting/honest discussion/newly opened relationship. Since then, with my husband's encouragement, I've been slowly looking for a partner...

You're right, this is interesting to think about. With my husband, I knew right away, the moment I saw him that he was THE ONE, lol. The first date lasted three days, after which he went home to pack all his stuff and move in. We've been together 12 years. On paper, he was absolutely...

Sounds like a rough night - but the free feeling is a positive. I hope it works out for the best.

Count me as one of the readers and thinkers. :) I am one of those "meet me first" partners. I know it makes me a lot more comfortable, and I have been doing a lot of thinking about WHY it helps. One thing - I think it's a lot harder to behave in a disrespectful or hurtful fashion to...

omg i think i peed a little. that's hilarious.

Just a minor clarification - I didn't intend my idea of "normal" to cover everyone's circumstances. Just what's normal around OUR house. And I wouldn't expect anyone to hang around waiting on my plans or decisions either - I think if you snooze, you lose. Although I do ask husband (man, i...

I think it sounds normal. My husband will ask me a couple days in advance when he's planning on seeing his girlfriend. It avoids scheduling conflicts, and keeps us from intruding on each other's private time. We just see it as a way of being polite to everyone involved. Althought I do have...

Interesting... I'm trying OK Cupid at the moment, and have found some very nice folks to meet for coffee soon (we're moving about 600 miles away within the next two weeks). We'll see what develops after we meet in person. :) I've also gotten lots of random emails from guys, one of whom was...

Thank you! Pleased to be of service. :D

I don't share details, nor do I ask for any. I have told hubby about some fantasies I'd like to pursue, things that really don't interest him. It's all theoretical at this point. But while he knows some of the broad strokes, I won't be giving him the minute details. I don't tell my friends...

I am very new to poly, so take everything I say with a grain of salt. I feel like I'm leaving a time capsule here, because I'm sure my answers are going to be completely different as time passes. :) 1. Do those "pangs" ever go away completely? HA! I am living in Pang City at the moment...