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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    It's common to see scientific language shift when a term used in popular culture becomes identified with insult. "Retard", "retarded", "deviant", all perfect examples of this. Often this is part of humane treatment of their subjects/patients, but it can also be to remove negative stigma from a...
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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    Just posted this over on my blog, for those of you who were wondering what ever became of my situation:
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    The Chronicles of TheBlackSwede Continue...

    Sorry for the long gap between updates, folks. L says she had the procedure. I offered to take her to the doctor, she declined numerous times. She told me that she was in the hospital for a couple days because of this combined with her other issues (cysts, etc), but that they didn't remove...
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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    SG, try some different kinds of condoms, as well. The regular ones suffocate me. I can stay erect for a little while, but nowhere near as long as normal with most condoms. Magnum size, though, no problems.
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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    I highly urge you not to risk it, being in the situation I am now in, I can tell you, it was not worth it.
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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    Hey Mags. I just saw your post over there. Didn't see it had gone to another page! How soon after we met? Admittedly, it was not very long. We had some brief unprotected contact initially and then decided to forego the condoms altogether after a few weeks. G knew about this, of course. She was...
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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    All valid concerns and questions. I have seen nothing to prove her condition. I haven't been to the doctor with her yet. She told me that she was three months along, which would match up to when we were together, but I have no way of knowing she wasn't sleeping with other people during that...
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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    If I were the one pregnant, I'd have already gotten the abortion. Sadly, my genetic material is currently developing of its own accord in another human being and I obviously have zero control of that whatsoever. Mags, I've been tested, no STDs. I don't know if she was with anyone else or not...
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    The Chronicles of TheBlackSwede Continue...

    Mags, I don't think she was, but I really don't know. She says no, but again, what the hell do I even actually know? Was she even on the pill? Do I believe anything she says anymore? How do I take the high road and be supportive from an emotional standpoint of what she has to do about this while...
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    If she Truly Loved Me she would...

    I'm not a big fan of this type of ultimatum. When I really love someone, my actions reflect that - not whether I have a psychic connection with them and can anticipate their every move. Frankly I'm smart, but not quite intelligent enough to appear prescient. I would counter the "if he truly...
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    Pregnant girlfriend. WTF now?

    I talked about this a bit in my blog: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?p=89525#post89525 I posted this bit here because I thought it brought up a bigger discussion about pregnancy that deserves its own thread. After all, that's one of the consequences of sex, whether we want to...
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    The Chronicles of TheBlackSwede Continue...

    Mags, I understand that much of the population has it and doesn't even know... but it's still incurable, and seems like its the sort of thing that could greatly impair my (already limited due to being married) ability to find potential other partners. That's just me from my own selfish...
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    The Chronicles of TheBlackSwede Continue...

    So I haven't had a date in a little while, not since last I posted, but G has been out with the local poly guy, twice now. I was all stoked about this for her too, until she dropped a bit of a bomb. He has an STD that we don't have. It's incurable, and permanent. Total bummer. It's just herpes...
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    Book: Sex at Dawn

    Perhaps the reason we haven't heard a peep out of the "experts" regarding this book is that they're all too busy eating their hats. ;)
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    Is male sex drive a myth?

    Mono, even if you disagree with their conclusions, does not your own choice of lifestyle, even as an entirely monogamous individual, to a certain extent reinforce them? Seeing as you are happily participating in a MFM vee relationship, and all?
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