Recent content by theque

I have, but I think I did it too soon. I was so caught up in "doing it right" right from the beginning that I don't think I was really ready to be as magnanimous and forgiving as I was acting. I balled up as much of that anger as I could, and buried it. Civilized people don't get angry! Hah...

Yes, I need to do some more reading, but it's hard. I feel so pushed into all this that actively digging into it is a challenge. And that's really the root of that statement. It feels as if this is something that JustMe wanted, and rather than talking to me about changes in...

I want to reply to this message in more detail and after more thought than I have time for right now. But for now I want to address this: I know that I have past experiences that are contributing negatively to this, and were likely indirect contributors to JustMe's affair in the first place. I...

Very true, hence my continued effort to push past these blocks. There are times where it seems impossible. I've been on the verge of just giving up more times than I care to count. Right. I do try to focus on things like that. In my heightened state of distrust, my natural tendency is to...

That's putting it lightly! I would think that after nearly 9 months I would have a better handle on what I want, or where to go, but I don't, really. I still feel just as uncomfortable and at odds with myself as I did in November when this suddenly became a real thing. In fact, in some ways it's...

I am JustMe's husband. First, I'd like to thank you all for your clearly caring and well-thought out responses to her message. This has been, and continues to be, extremely challenging for both of us. We both are needing support through this, and I fear she has not gotten as much as she really...