Recent content by Tia

Welcome, basket. :)

Hmm... I would like to argue that being treated equally doesn't mean being treated the same, either! Equal consideration to my emotions, even if, as in the case that Mono cites, I have less time invested in the family, so I would need/want/have earned less involvement in family decisions...

That's not easy to hear/do in any format of relationship. It needs to be done sensitively, and you may well lose the friendship, but I hope that won't stop you taking a chance on new love in the future. One question: is this the first time you have attempted to *start a meaningful relationship*...

100% unconditional love in all directions, and lots of laughing. :)

In my opinion you are giving as much as anyone by finding a voice and a way to express your fears and concerns, so that other people without the courage you have can learn from what is said :)

aww.. this is a cute story :) I wish you luck on your adventure x

Io.. I wish I could have more experience to share with you and make this easier for you... but for myself I am just entering into my first poly relationship, and I am the first "girlfriend" of my couple... and at the moment it is new & exciting & terrifying for all of us (neither myself or the...

I learned something new today... I am a "unicorn" .. hehe. I love the way reading this forum throws up words and phrases that I have to go look up... You can imagine my face when I opened the first page for NRE.. I was like.. "omg, my life makes so much more sense now!" (that was of course after...

My first reaction to this is what a beautiful, selfless act. Your letter is well written and expresses perfectly where you are & what you offer/expect. I would be careful about giving up yourself to "follow all their rules" completely though. What happens if they decide on a rule which is...

Have you had any "alone time" with her? I have found that forming a bond with my boyfriend's wife is really helping us both deal with our insecurities because they are all on the table for everyone to see. (We are even discovering a fascination for each other. Of course the man in our lives has...

I agree 100% with Mono. If you WANT this to fail, and your wife to reject the idea, sure, go ahead and broach the subject when she is feeling tired, flabby, over-emotional, and her nipples are raw from learning to have a baby feed off them. If you want her to really be open to the idea, wait...

I think if they love you, and you present as happy and centered when you tell them, then they should be happy for you. But they can still worry. My mother ALWAYS worries about me when I talk about a new boyfriend. And my father gets terribly uncomfortable, I think because he doesn't like the...

Wow... I had no idea women like that existed. She's amazing. He's amazing. We're amazing. This is all very exciting. :) Thanks, forum. I appreciate the advice.

Thanks, guys. Thanks for the teddy, Tim. That's really sweet of you. :) I spoke to my fella on the phone earlier and I think I may be making too big of a deal deal out of this. It's just a coffee and a hello. I'm just gonna take a chill pill and enjoy the ride. :)

Thank you, Quath. I'm nervous and excited at the same time. I'm scared she'll not like me, or that I'll do or say something to make her feel threatened, or make him lose interest in me. Your words are a comfort, especially as this is a bit new to me, to be able to talk about it with anyone who...