Recent content by Times2

Thank you dragonfly, for your perspective. We can see the concern about being the "third wheel," and being left out of the decision-making process, and feeling like a "buffer. All anyone can do when entering into any relationship, being poly or otherwise, is to work at every dynamic to make...

Thank you for that post and the links AnnabelMore. It makes us feel less "controversial." :) According to statistics, there are about 15,000 plural marriages within some religious communities. I am sure not all of them are successful and some may not have been entered into freely. However...

No one is leaving in a huff. No one is living in a fantasy bubble. No one is too unintelligent to understand anything. And I have said previously, I will do the posting for us BOTH. WE are a unit, so no need for a second account. WE post together. If you want to address one of us or the other...

Just as anyone would go forth and seek out a life mate, that is what we intend to do. I never said he would call the shots. WE have decide to find another spouse. Does that mean that person has to give up their individuality? Of course not. Does that mean that we are gonna hover over that...

I suppose that's just where we are right now. You're right, it has worked for us ten years, and almost 19 years for them. There has been no interference with the loving devoted relationships between the married couples. But, again, they are devoted to each other, and we are devoted to each...

Thank you so much for your input, AnnabelMore. It is greatly appreciated. You have made us look again at what it is we expect. You are right. Some of this does seem very very selfish for us to ask of someone from the poly community. As we have been posting and putting into black and white our...

Congratulations Daveryan. Now, let me know, what is OKC and how do I do it. Also, I am new to poly, what is NRE?:confused:

I also find this thread completely fascinating, and most informative and enlightening. Some of this is still unfamiliar to me though, like V or 'vee'... what is that exactly? As for the new third having a previous relationship or current relationship, well, we aren't really at that particular...

Thank you for your insight. It is much appreciated. We don't plan on casting aside our couple. We love them and would never do that. However, they are sexual partners who have cooled off to a meeting just once or twice a year. It has become more of a "hang out, have a good time together...

Hi. You guys sound a lot like us. Nice to meet you.

My husband and I have one username because we do everything together, so he is gonna read every post I make and visa versa. He is unlikely to post anything simply because he will leave that to me but should he do so, I will make sure he has stated it is him who is posting so as not to confuse. :D

Thank you both for your replies. I am sorry it all sounds a bit morbid, but it is how we got here. Magdlyn, we have discussed this, and you are right, the most another man could offer my husband is companionship and friendship, should it be me that passes first. And, of course, they will...

Are you afraid that you will fall in love with the friend? You have equated intimate contact with emotional attachment so that maybe this is your fear. Regardless of the answer to that question, if you don't want to do it, then don't, it won't help. Is your wife afraid that she is not being...

I know I am new to this community, but I read this entire thread and I feel the need to reply on the children's behalf. I never saw where you mentioned the age of the children, but it seems you may have not considered the emotional impact placed upon them for your decisions. If you decide to...

AnnabelMore, thank you for the link. Very intelligent piece. I believe that NathandDom understand completely what we are looking for. I suppose that the kind of relationship Dylan and I are talking about could be considered polygamy, because for all intents and purposes, we are looking for a...