Recent content by Tinkerbell87

I sat down and talked to him and explained how I have issues with the "no emotional involvement". I also told him how I feel that we both kinda jumped in head first before fully understanding what we were doing. Since neither of us are currently talking to anybody, I suggested that we put the...

I am not in the BDSM community but I have done some research out of pure curiosity. That being said, I thought Anastasia was the bad guy too. I felt she was to blame because she kept talking about how much she didn't want to do it but kept going back. She agreed to everything and even signed the...

Bandits is actually one of my favorite movies. I love how smooth they just make it work. A little hostility, at first. Then they are all happily together in Mexico.

I've recently stepped back from everything and really focused on the big question 'what do I want in a poly relationship'. I have been reading The Ethical Slut and realized I am not happy with our current arrangement. I was on a dating site, as well, but I deleted the app because it was just...

Good for you. I knew I was "non-monogamous" since my first boyfriend when I was a teenager and that's why none of my previous relationships worked. They expected exclusivity. I was in a monogamous relationship with my husband for 8 years and things just didn't feel right. We had a good marriage...

All hell broke lose at my house. After a year he decided to tell me he's not comfortable with our open marriage, never has been. He has been dying inside but agreed to all of this because he thought I'd cheat anyway. He broke down when I started talking to a guy back home. He acted like he was...

He lives too far away for that. I did meet a guy who wants to meet up. Setting a date for next week. Fingers crossed it goes well.

I'm more worried about in person because they don't know my lifestyle choice and I would hate to get to talking to someone and then they run. And I know about the thing in fireplace. I commented in there already. I will keep people in here posting. You guys are my lifeline for support...

Yes I am on okcupid. I'm just new to all this. Met my husband when I was 19 and he was the first stranger I ever dated. Everyone else I knew from school or friends. Haven't dated anyone new in over 10 years.

My husband mentioned an open marriage and I told him I can't do it without emotional connection and the ability to date. So I guess with us it was a mutual introduction. Our discussion started though because I needed more and I casually dropped hints and things that I wanted it. He can be...

Okay so I am new to online dating. I've decided to try it since meeting people when you are a SAHM is hard. Need some advice. How to you word your profile? To you put in your summary that you are in a polyamorous marriage?

I was having a pretty alright conversation with this guy and he asked what do I like to do for fun. I went through a list and mentioned board games. When he found out I've never played chess and prefer word games like scrabble and scattergories, he was like "and this is where I say goodbye"...

Thank you everyone for the advice. I hate to see others have went through this but I do appreciate the advice. As of now neither of us have found the right person. We were both talking to people but neither panned out. For now just living life and hoping to meet someone new. Moving in 4 months...

Thanks everyone. He is being good and making sure I'm okay with it but no matter how many times I say I am he almost doesn't believe me. Makes no sense because I am not one to keep my emotions bottled up, I am a very open and blunt person. I explained to him it is different and is going to take...

Thanks. I actually did really good while he was gone. Guess it helps I'm use to him being gone a lot with work. I was actually kinda disappointed that he was only gone a little over an hour. I had to make sure things went okay. She didn't have a lot of time yesterday but just wanted to see him...