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    Vicki's Journey Continues...

    This is very much possible. I'm sorry :{
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    Jealous being the girlfriend of a man in a poly relationship with his wife

    What's up with people here suddenly expecting 50:50 split after 4 months when we tell posters all the time that relationships have to grow and to expect the same level of life entanglement in a new relationship as in the old one immediately is unrealistic? Isn't a year actually a very fast...
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    Allosexual husband of an asexual wife explores options

    That's totally a reason to wait a bit.
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    Artificial Intelligence Discussion

    Oh, interesting. A pity I didn't see that thread. The first time I chatted with chatGPT, my guess was, this will become a new form of addiction very soon. (It's been getting on my nerves since, because they made it so stereotypically polite.) I would have never come up with chatbots meeting...
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    *same post* looking for polyamorous adults to take a 10 minute survey for dissertation!

    I assume the novelty should concern polyamory. The finding - in a good study - could be something like "securely attached people tend to have similar levels of relationship satisfaction in polyamory as i monogamy, while anxiously attached people report lower relationship satisfaction levels in...
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    Allosexual husband of an asexual wife explores options

    Reading about your autism, I can't help but wonder again whether that is one of the factors that predisposes people to (considering) polyamory, or at least adopting the 'polyamorous' label and philosophy. That's because 1) autistic people tend to not give a damn about social pressure, and 2)...
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    My partner and my meta don’t communicate

    I’m sorry, I messed it all up! It’s Leo - Isabelle - blue, no Adam involved at all! Sorry!
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    My partner and my meta don’t communicate

    If I understand it correctly, though, Adam is not monogamous, at least not at the moment - his partners are Isabelle and Blue. So he would need to break up with both or renegotiate agreements with one of them and break up with the other one, if he trully wanted to be monogamous ;)
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    My partner and my meta don’t communicate

    Oh yes, that’s hard. Maybe you can help him explore options, if he is willing.
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    My partner and my meta don’t communicate

    I agree. The bad thing (probably) is, she doesn’t know. (Although, can you really know that?) But, that is their relationship problem. Question: What part of the situation does impact you and how? Where does your discomfort come from? Maybe you can find something under your influence there…
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    First wife looking for advice and guidance.

    It could be, I just feel we don’t have enough info to say it with certainty. To be more explicit, the similarity I see with unicorn hunting is putting two sets of expectations on a potential person (“constructing a small box” as explained in the article). The proverbial unicorn hunters are...
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    First wife looking for advice and guidance.

    It’s possible your husband isn’t as patriarchally-minded as some suggest. However, what he proposes would mix TWO LIFSTYLES which are already DIFFICULT and MINORITIES on their own-- polyamory, and this community-striving-for-independence idea. What I hear from communities is that it is difficult...
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    Vicki's Journey Continues...

    You're not alone misunderstanding the "gender" axis. I happen to be happy with (or at least not questioning) my female, but my body is pretty much the only thing defining me as a woman. If I were born in a male body and learned to identify as male, my life would be almost certainly easier. I'm...
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    Moving too fast?

    Give yourself some time to process before you go on a date. The guy has been around for years, he can wait one more month.
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    OMG, Bluebird, I’m sorry. I don’t read blogs regularly, but just jumped in and learned you have a tumor. And broke up with bestie too. So sorry, I hope everything goes the best way possible for you.
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