Recent content by Tinwen

Maybe you should trust your radar. Although maybe your new interest is not opposed to having *something* with you as well, they are more into your partner than they are into you. That's not a bad thing, unless you operate under the unrealistic assumption that the relationships should have the...

Then you should talk to Emma prior to the trip... In fact, you should all talk about expectations. There need not be sex on the trip at all, unless everyone is very happy about it. And yes, Emma could be hurt seeing firsthand how hot your passion burns. That's why I, personally, would not go...

Why? Would you prefere to try one day first?

Performativity? (I'm not sure what you mean by that.)

Well... I don't seem able to have a sexual relationship without falling in love. I'm not sure anymore if that's a part of the definition though 😅

I did another AI search (sorry, lazy here) and I'm less and less convinced "polysexual" is in use by the wider ENM community outside of this forum, in which case I do lean towards avoiding the term. I had chatgpt brainstorm another options, and - asside from using romantically/sexually...

True, but that is not a name for your ability to have those multiple fwb relationships :)

I think you're doing great.

@enigmastag Do you think by any chance your wife would be also interested to post on the forum, would it be even helpful for her to read this discussion? Or do you need this place to be more of a sanctuary for yourself? You can also share some other poly resources with each other. People do read...

Thanks. I remember that assumption from when I wanted poly in my monogamous relationship. Unfortunately, it turned out to be naive as soon as feelings entered play. Yes. The problem with veto power is, it doesn't work - not in the big picture, let alone controlling the process. If anything - a...

Thanks. At this stage, we might have skipped rope already, because my legs are swollen, so there aren't many body parts left to tie safely 😢 We tied until last time which was 34 weeks pregnant already - not a bad score I think. (Baby ought to be coming some time July.) But I was certainly...

Sounds kinda viable. Feelings may easily develop in a fwb situation, but with personal integrity and the understanding that "falling in love" is not fate, a signal to rush action (such as leaving the primary relationship), or a personal offence to the original partner, and that the hormons will...

I had one last session before my due date with MaskedRigger scheduled today, unfortunately, he had to cancel :( I'm luckily not in love this time, but I was still looking forward to it. With these "once in a while" relationships (very best case we see each other every two weeks), any change in...

I'm thinking for some people it might be better to cut off communication cold turkey, but for some people, even if they don't hookup or do a "relationship" anymore, it may be helpful to just check in from time to time when they miss each other too badly. [Probably not a good idea with that...

Still haven't started a new thread.. oh well! I'm going through my stuff trying to reduce some stored papers and make space for baby, and I'm having bouts of serious nostalgia. I used to understand these.