Recent content by Tinwen

So many couples going through this, and I still don't know the best advice on the NRE situation :( You seem pretty much down to earth about it, you're not in rage because it's "cheating", nor in denial, nor overestimating your capacity to deal with it. That's all good. You both have zero...

Eh, um, I don't see it as clear as Indie, but there's definitely a super important point in her post: Even if your love interest is into you, never did she propose she's up to polyamory. This has been "paralel universe" talk. So that's a very dangerous assumption to make.

I'm sorry, but you probably can't have your cake and eat it too, unless your wife turns out to be reaaaly open (which does happen.... rarely). You are under monogamous vows, so what you are having is an emotional affair. I suggest you stick to that view first, come clean, apologize and take...

You know, I suspect Galagirl probably invented that categorisation for us. She's the one explaining it most often.

Yeah, I don't get celebrity crushes either, and I'm not attracted to random guys who aren't somehow interested in me. I do have a soft spot for guys who teach or generally speak well though 😅 Even when I was very mono with my first highschool bf, I sometimes couldn't take my eyes off one...

They clarified everyone is trans in their second post, and I believe he said he's not christian anymore, so not a cult.

I mean falling in love but choosing bot to pursue actual sex or relationship. It happens even to people in mono relationships all the time (I've had several) - some just can't get a singer, teacher or another idol that would never be interested in them out of their head, some fall for someone...

Totally poly if it works, why not? Just not a requirement. I would not call it KTP, it's "kitchen table" for a reason - the image is of the polycule sharing meals at least semi-regularly. :O I don't know if your wife works or stays at home, but from talking to my friends I think two years age...

She's not wrong, not only you can, you have to continue the relationship work once open. But it's still also important to start from a good place.

Feel free to write it out here for more people to give feedback, or you can drop me a pm if necessary.

This could be true, which would spell doom to your relationship. Or maybe not - we've had tons of arguments where both people felt that way about the other one. I'm really sooooo curious what she would say if she came here in this particular case.

A MFM configuration where the males aren't involved is totally possible (common), it's just not called a triad, it's a "V". And you could have a kitchen-table style or not. (Or, just in case you mean sexually involved but not in love, I have no idea what bracket to put that in ;)) So there ARE...

"Hierarchy" applies mostly to established long-term couples, where (usually) the original partner takes precedence or tries to impose rules on the newer relationship(s). This may be hard to hear, but in your case, I don't even see your relationship as secure. Six months is pretty new, and if...

You're six months in and he's already prioritising another, not to mention lying about her. I do think these are legitimate dealbreakers. Will he have someone new every three months?

So it's just like friendships - you can't force them if both people don't want. Or like relatives - we don't choose relatives. Having a metamour can feel very much like having a cousin you like or don't like but whom you will meet at family events regardless.