Recent content by TR72

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The way that I was taught to practice is really based on meeting my experience and having a genuine experience as opposed to trying to transcend anything. I meet my feelings and allow myself to simply feel them. I'm not getting rid of anything or judging it as good or bad. Feelings want to be...

I asked this question as part of one of my threads. The question I got that helped me define it the best was "A need is something that is a deal breaker." This makes sense to me. I see that I have very few needs in regard to my relationships. Honesty seems to be one of them. Honesty is related...

You're welcome. Glad it helps.

New to the forum but a Buddhist for 25 years. And when I say a Buddhist I don't mean this as an intellectual pursuit. I have spent a lot of time on the cushion working with my mind. Have a number of retreats under my belt the longest of which was 30 days of practice. Buddhism first and foremost...

The time frame at this point is a 6 month commitment. I'm sure we will discuss this at the 6 month point and move forward from there. No counseling as yet. We live in a small rural area and would have to do some sort of skype counseling to find a poly friendly counselor. Things at this point...

Thanks for the kind welcome and helpful pointers.

What behaviors would be behaviors that help support a healthy marriage? What would be deal breakers? Are you both on the same page there? I see that neither wants to break up, but coming at it like "Divorce is not an option" can lead to that "trapped" feeling. Honesty, clear communication...

Now that I won't loose my work I will try to address a few of the things that have been said. I will call my wife The Dragon from here on out. Both The Dragon and I have communicated extensively and as clearly as we can. I have been honest. I don't know about her, but I have to take on good...

Thanks, that helps.

Thank you all for the feedback and kindness. I have typed out two responses and the browser has backpaged twice and lost them. I can't do a third. I take everything said to heart and will consider them. I hope my marriage can be a success of a transition from cheating to poly with the same...

Thank you for the kind welcome. I have posted in the relationship forum and previously I have searched for answers for our situation. Not a lot out there. I'm sure you will understand once you read the thread. Thanks again.

Hello. This is my first post and it may be long. I have been married for 13 years. About a year ago my wife and I opened our marriage to casual sex. Almost immediately she went on a business trip and had sex with a man she had met on a previous trip. This was a long trip almost two weeks and...

Just and intro. I am new to the Poly life. My initials are JS. I can't use that as a user name. I'm here for help. This has been difficult.