Recent content by trallart

You folks really put alot of thought into these replies. I do appreciate it, much!

I have a feeling the searches are along the lines of "my husband wants open marriage" or "husband wants other women". The anecdotes are helpfull, but I agree that a lot of it is skewed negative because of the satisfied folks not feeling the need to communicate that.

I am getting through this one now, wife is in another book. Hopefully she will continue on to Opening Up. The meet up thing came up too. Small town, so we would have to make a trip out of it. I know of a town a few hours away that lists a monthly meeting. I fear her search syntax is...

One day I get the feeling I'm going to start looking for people. Then, another day there is a complete breakdown from my wife. This flip flopping is frustrating for me. She only looks at the negatives, only reads about the horror stories. I am not pushing. She said she does not want to stop...

This is depressing. I have had some very close platonic female friends. My closest friends outside of my marriage were other females, but that was a few years ago and we have grown/moved way apart. For the last 6-7 years I have had no other close friends, I have made it it a goal to change...

I agree with you KC, 100%. We have to start somewhere. If my wife is more comfortable with the non attached sex first I would do that for her. I know an actual additional relationship will be it's own deal.

I guess the sex thing is a first hurdle or test of how we would look at each other knowing that one or both of us was just intimate with another person. It is not all that I am looking for. I desire emotional intimacy as well. I guess maybe this would be a first step, knowing that we were not...

thought about a tent and a campground. maybe a used Winnebago:).

After a few talks about opening up, a common issue arises. Are we sure we can handle the first encounter? Would we be able to go through with it? The feelings, emotions, and our history would be seemingly overwhelming standing in front of another person that is ready to be intimate with you...

Well, just started listening to "opening up". Not really related to that but my wife did express an increased interest in the swinging thing. I could deal that but I really want those emotional connections too, sometime.

Opening Up is on my list. Thanks

We have been together for 20 years. Breakup can't be the only other option. Science fiction is not her big thing. We did watch Caprica which I thought had a polyamorous group, years ago though.

Well, we talked. Mostly about what I feel. It seems like she might be okay with me developing deep relationships or having sex, but expressed concern if the two are coincident. Her concern is that someone else will be better than my whole life now and I would move in that direction. She...

I think it is the narrative we are raised with and try to live by, both cultural and religious. People that are portrayed as having extra marital thoughts are always slimy and in the wrong and are the brunt of whatever malady. Only the best and brightest, most honorable, have shut down their...

nycindie, I skirt the issue. we have "themed" conversations. we have not talked about us specifically. Like "people should be more healthy" vs "we should start eating better and going to the gym". I feel like once I put in "I" or "us", it will be make or break.