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A great thought, Karen. Thanks again for your thoughtful and meaningful words. I’m moving forward, but it's going to be some work to get there. Dash - Thank you for reaching out and sharing your experience. It’s good to know that there are others that are experiencing the same feelings...

Karen, thanks for these thoughtful words. I do see this experience absolutely as a catalyst for me to tackle some of the issues I have with my own habits and support network that I've neglected for the past several years. And I'm working on expanding my social horizons and achieving deeper...

So that last post was premature. While all is well back in the US with my wife and her new lover, I'm 6000 miles away struggling with jealousy. My intellectual side knows that this relationship is an important for my wife and her need to feel like a whole person (by giving expression to her...

Update: My wife and her lover got together yesterday for the first time in almost a year and had an incredible time. She shared her experience over the phone today, and though we're 6000 miles away from each other right now, I feel closer to her than ever. After almost 20 years of marriage...

All good here. Had a weekend getaway that really helped jell things in my head. I turned the corner from selfishly hoping that my wife's relationship is just a fling to recognizing that her connection with her lover is a beautiful thing to be nurtured and protected. I've made what I feel like...

Kevin and Karen, Thank you for your considered and thoughtful comments. Karen, I particularly like what you had to say. i fully agree that acceptance of change and giving our partners the freedom to fully express themselves is critical to successful long term relationships. Change can be...

Thanks for your kind and insightful posts. KC43, you're right that the work I need to do is expand my own emotional support network, but it is hard work, particularly because, as Kevin suggests, i am overseas, where it's a rather small expat community. This just makes this more of a...

This posting is about my experience over the past year. My wife and I have a long term successful marriage, and shortly before we moved overseas a year ago, she started a relationship with a woman for the first time, which has continued long distance. They're about to reunite. We are both...