Recent content by tronprogram

Well, this will likely be my final post here, but I've decided to end my marriage to Mabel. Two days after Penny stopped talking to me, I started talking to a girl on another forum and really hit it off with her. At the time, the pressure to act on my urges was getting too great to bear, so I...

Well, she was the one who introduced the boyfriend/girlfriend language in the first place. I just enjoyed talking and flirting with her and wanted to continue that. She started framing it as a relationship and I felt like I had no reason not to oblige her, so that's how I got to that point. We...

Well, so far the therapist has just been trying to steer me toward what I want to do, rather than uncover who I am. However, I agree with you that I might need to redirect and ask to explore who I am. I'm only making educated guesses here, but he can help me know with more certainty.

I took this advice and took a break from here to alleviate some of the pressure I was feeling. The effect was that I got to a point where I finally talked to Mabel more about things and we basically concluded that we're not going to get anywhere on this. She's not going to be okay with poly or...

I would want to find extra ways (beyond the regular, just-because-she's-my-wife ways) to be considerate towards Mabel because she would be considerate of my poly. Several people told polywanna on another thread that that's how it should work. Her husband should be considerate of her poly because...

As I said above, if Mabel didn't want to go out and leave me with the baby after I'd had a tough day at work, I'd consider how nice it is that she lets me date someone else and tell her to go out anyway. I'd still try to do this even if I wasn't dating someone just because I should. I'm just...

Yes, the way you rephrased it is exactly what I meant. If she thought going out and leaving me with the baby after I'd had a stressful day at work was asking too much of me, that's when I'd consider my dating and tell her to go out anyway. But I'd want to show the occasional grace under pressure...

I don't think he thought that. He didn't really say anything. He just said, "Hmm!" like he was surprised and jotted down some notes. He didn't seem to expect to hear me say that. Also, I emailed him on Friday, asking what he'd prefer me to do about emailing the rest of the story, but I haven't...

It was only an hourlong session and I spent most of the time just filling the therapist in on everything. Even in an hour, I didn't cover everything. I got most of the major events, but a lot of important nuances and other details were left out. One thing he said at the end was that it was...

No, I felt like your post was something I should aspire to and I was just lamenting how difficult it will be to reach it.

What's wrong with what I've said now? That I think my wife deserves to go pamper herself while I watch the kid because she's able to let me go off and do something on my own occasionally? Isn't that one of the things that mono spouses can do to keep their jealousy in check? I'm just saying it's...

Up until now, I've mainly used my love of movies & filmmaking and my personality to build up a strong inner life to get me through and drive me forward. I've always felt this open relationship and dating Penny was an extension of that, just with romance (and a hearty helping of NRE) added to...

Noted. Where are you getting the idea that I'm not going to do these things? Not necessarily, because it'll be the off-season for my voluntary work. Although, if I get my way, I'll be working for the organization I volunteer for, making better money than I do now. No, I'm pretty sure...

I'm still good from living at home for 25 years. lol

I've just seen the one here on the Corner. I'll look up the other one. I've also noted the similarities. :) Well, it's not like she wouldn't see it at all. Just not as much as she would if we were still married, probably, because I wouldn't have custody all the time. But if we cohabited and...