Recent content by TurtleBug

I do love him, very much. If I didn't I would not be trying so hard to keep working on these issues. He really is a good person, we have fun together, he gets me (to an extent). We have known each other all our lives and been a couple since 2004. Married 2006. We didn't open our marriage until...

I read the poly hell article and it really hit the nail on the head. I sent a link to my husband and asked him to look into it and possibly even get his other partner to read it also. It is a very mixed combination of jealousy, envy and anger. And I know that I shouldn't be directing my anger...

Galagirl, you always have the best responses and you're always so helpful. Thank you. I'm sorry I'm not giving much insight to my situation. I'm trying to figure out how to phrase these things without giving out too much personal information. Point blank, I do not like his partner. I want...

The other partner doesn't associate with me yet he wants me to associate with them. But we are so deep in our issues with each other that I'm done trying to have any part in their life together even though that's not what he wants me to do

The betrayal of trust doesn't stem from seeing these things. He went without protection, disregarded my feelings on multiple occasions, stopped communicating, and put his other partner before our marriage during his NRE phase. Plus several other issues that we have worked on. These series of...

I would like to work through it, but his suggestion is to just get over it because he's trying to make it right again. But my mindset has me not wanting to work through it and just basically go to DADT even though I hate that way of poly. But my anxiety can't handle being around his other...

The jealously is me now being uncomfortable being around his other partner. I can't handle seeing him give her affection. I don't like the idea of them having sex in my and his bed. I want nothing else to do with her. Him betraying my trust and breaking our personal policy (policies) has me on...

I'm going to try to make th is as short and simple as possible so please bear with me. My husband betrayed my trust. Several times over the last 5 years since we opened our marriage and found polyamory. The stuff in the past I have been able to somewhat forgive him for. It's still there but...

I think you summed this up for me better than my brain was able to. Sex has always been a need of mine but communication is and always will be greater. I had the post part um depression talk with my doctor while my husband was with me, it's definitely a fear I have, in hopes to get it taken care...

I always love hearing from you, you have some of the best responses. We don't know yet which route will be taken when D-day gets here tho we're hoping for vaginal. Of course plans change. And from what I've read and been told vaginal births do take a lot more healing, at least for when it...

I do have a bad habit of over thinking stuff so I probably am scaring myself on the post baby sex. Between feedings, diapers, new baby stuff I don't see where we'd have the time or definitely energy to get back in the groove tho I know those things take time. All of those fears and...

I've actually wanted to say this but in turn would feel like I was making the petty comments :p

I'm worried about both but it does feel like I'm more worried about my husband than my bf. Not to compare tho it does come off that way, but me and bf do occasionally have sex. With my husband it's almost obsolete. And since he's in a somewhat new relationship with a mono minded person it...

Even pushing the issue on what's wrong gets me nowhere. My husband and I have always had really good communication but he basically shuts down when I try to talk to him about this and that worries me more.

Kinda long term, at least with me and my husband. We've always fluctuated in our sex life but never have we gone more than a week. And lately it's a month at a time. Bf and I are usually one to two times a week and in the last few months have gone down to every two weeks or more. So it is a...