Recent content by under_moonlight

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    NonTechnical Questions About Making a Polyam Discord Server

    Thank you all so much for your insight so far! I scheduled time for myself tonight and this weekend to sit down review all the information I've collected so far. I set myself a goal of actually making the server no matter what by Saturday night (not having it open to anyone yet, just actually...
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    Everything About Rooster

    I spit my soup (thankfully back into my bowl) laughing at this. That was a good one! 😂 *edit to add a missing word*
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    NonTechnical Questions About Making a Polyam Discord Server

    Hi all! Recently on TikTok a creator posted a video to help polyam people find each other through the comments. They posted each state and told people to comment below their state to help us find each other. My state was surprisingly popular, but nothing seemed to come of it past the...
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    Embarrassed in the Bedroom

    We worked this out mostly before we opened up, but I was definitely embarrassed for the longest time telling my husband things that I liked or didn't like about sex. To boot, I found out that he had been keeping quiet on somethings as well! Now we share videos/articles/etc of things we want to...
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    I am finally here!

    When you said that you had initially thought that you were going to be in a mono-polyam relationship that really resonated with me. I felt like I personally was too busy when my husband and I first opened up to even consider another relationship, so the reasoning may have been a little...
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    In the garden

    Feel better!
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    Explorer with big ears. (Eyes?)

    I can second the difficulty of LDRs, as well as the fact that it's possible based off personal experience! It's very possible, but definitely a lot of work, and I feel like I had an easier time because it did not start as a LDR (my OSO moved after we had been together for 3 months). Still, for...
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    Why do you use the online name that you use?

    Yeah, it always come back to the moon for me! It's a beautiful thing, it's a very calm and peaceful presence (something I sometimes strive for)! Better than the user names I used back in high school - mostly weird nick names like molly_mouse and techno_colored_hearts, or plays on my previous...
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    Patterns or coincidence?

    I think it also depends on where you're looking!! My husband and I just both turned 30 this summer, and my OSO is only 32 and has been doing polyamory/ENM on and off for a while with his other partner. There's another couple in town that my husband hangs out with to play D&D that is only a...
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    Why do you use the online name that you use?

    I usually go by Selenite which is just a very pretty crystalized version of gypsum that was named after the Greek goddess of the moon, Selene. I am not a worshiper of any specific gods or religion at the moment, but I have always loved the moon and so the symbolism drew me to the name...
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    Mono-poly relationship needs support

    I totally agree with this, these questions are rabbit holes I ended up jumping down myself in the start of all this. I can't find it now, but there is a TikTok personality, polyphiliablog, that had a great short video about this that led to more questions surrounding why we feel monogamy is the...
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    Everything About Rooster

    Hi Rooster, Yeah, communication is key, but its it's something that can be really difficult to just start doing out of the blue. What's nice is once you do build up those skills they can be useful to have even outside of this situation. As for not knowing your meta, I was surprised when I...
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    New to the Site, Only Sort of New to Polyamory

    Thank you also both for the warm welcome! @Magdlyn I am definitely busy, but by choice. I didn't realize it until recently, but I have been using keeping myself busy as an escape from entering a depressive episode like I did a few times in my formative yearS. I only realized recently...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    I was looking at some of the blogs, and a few of them have given some insight for sure! For example, I've been feeling a bit sad that I didn't get to connect with my meta before her and my OSO moved, but one blog talked about how sometimes not getting to know your meta just happens which helped...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    As someone new, I wanted to post my story, though it's not very interesting at all, and may actually be offensive for some parts. So *trigger warning*, it involves two people who had stupid ideals/desires, but thankfully grew up a bit and thankfully never ended up hurting someone. My first...