Recent content by VA_Gentleman

I have scheduled a meeting with a counselor and am going to do that.

Thanks. That's my feelings. I am looking at the list from here of counselors. I think it will be best to tell her, but first for me to go to a counselor specializing in this, and then bring her with me to a session. It seems the only good way to do it, outside of simply ending it or pausing it...

Yep

To a point. We are intimate, but for 25 years she hasn't really enjoyed or wanted sex, no matter how much I try. I will say I have learned from my other partners that it's not me... but that's made me want to give more. The issue is, she has zero interest. Short version, she has all the signs...

Albert thanks for all you wrote. Im still going thru it all but does give a lot of insight to whats going on with me. Thanks for sharing

Yes, that's how I take it. Most of the time my reasons for being out aren't questioned. But I hate lying. For me, going out to hang out with others and such is out of norm and I know it. I work from home and rarely leave... and have a circle of friends locally that before this was less than I...

**The Short Version** I’m a mid-50s male. I would say I look fairly young for my age (told mid-40s by my partners) and been married to an amazing woman for over 30 years. Despite making an effort a few times a year, our intimacy is limited. I suspect her past traumas and possible asexual...