Recent content by Vajra

The quote from his wife was, "If that is what you need, then you go do it. BUT I don't want to see it or hear about it." So, if he sees men and doesn't tell his wife, then he is doing as she wishes. I know that Debbie and I have received a bad rap here, and I am not sure why. Debbie and I...

I am bi as well,and prefer sex with men. What you are going through is not uncommon. I would be careful and find men on the fly, without the wife's knowledge. It seems as though she is not hip on your desires.

I am still intimate with my ex-wife, and my current wife (Debbie) and my ex-wife have had sex with the same men on several occasions. It happens. A recent lover that Debbie was with noticed a picture of my ex-wife in our bedroom and asked how we knew her. Debbie told her lover that the woman in...

Vajra Dickdomin It may seem that I am really a self centered little prick. Dickdomin is not the first person to tell me this. Debbie has told me that me taking myself out of the picture is selfish, and that putting myself last makes everyone feel bad. I am trying to change that, but it...

I can't believe that I am saying this (or writing this,) but I have to come to Dickdomin's defense. Dickdomin Here, Dickdomin is correct. Tantra does not teach to do without, or to deny oneself. Tantra teaches that we are to be where we are when we are there, and be totally aware. I have...

How I view sex; I see wanting or asking for sex as putting a burden on the person you are wanting sex with. Masturbation is a one man thing. You are not putting a burden on anyone else. So, it is a good thing. To desire or want or ask for sex, you are putting another person in a place of...

Davison has lived with us for a week now. I think that things are going well. I feel more feminine and Debbie seems to like that flogging is part of our every day life now. Davison has settled in nicely, too. I think we are well on our way to living very happy lives together.

I have seen a positive change in Debbie since she has been flogging me and using the paddle on me. Debbie likes how she feels when she flogs me and paddles me. She says that she likes the feeling of being able to get out her aggressions with me. It isn't really abuse. I like the sting of the...

Debbie and I both give plasma. They test for diseases that can be found in blood, and we have a friend who is a physician that we see regularly. Yes, we both get tested. I have not had much actual sex for a very long time, but because Debbie does have sex with so many partners, she does get...

I found this in another post, "Originally Posted by Candiedlove View Post - Being poly isn't just about "getting" something from the other person. It's about both of you enjoying yourself the way you want and helping each other be as happy as possible." I thought about this. I am happier...

I was in a sexless marriage for far too many years. I decided against sex because my wife asked me, "Why can't you love me without having to have sex with me?" To me that meant that if I desired sex with her that I didn't love her, but I did love her. To this day I have trouble with the whole...

Okay. Well, I have made it possible for Debbie to get beyond a good amount of her past, through thrashing. I have allowed her to have other lovers, and now a lover who is what we have both been looking for is living with us. Because Davison brought up the chastity, I am now wearing a chastity...

I did not see inside the box. I now know that there are two keys. Before now I was unaware. I have had people in my past tell me that my real life is not real. And that made it hard for me to find anyone to talk to me many years ago when I was having trouble dealing with my 1st wife cucking me...

10/23/14 AM What you have said is very true in many ways. Debbie woke me this morning by slapping my buttocks with her paddle. She then had me lie on my back and she rubbed my testicles. Debbie asked me why I hadn't been watching her and Davison make love. I told Debbie that she had told me not...

Davison had some legitimate concerns that he wanted to talk to me about. So, I asked him what those concerns were. Davison told me that he had never been involved with a couple before, especially one like Debbie and I, and he wanted to make sure that him taking my bedroom, my wife and control of...