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Dude's been a youth group adviser at the church for something like 4-5 years. He's great at it. He cares very deeply about the kids and has helped a lot of them through very difficult things like substance abuse, sexual assault, horrible parenting, eating disorders, questioning sexual...

Thank you so much, everyone, for your feedback. My family and friends have given me the same advice (get the fuck away). It's weird. I used to have no trouble dropping people like bad habits. I've broken off total contact with people I was involved with or just friends with for shit that's...

So, I was wrong about some things, but I'm not too concerned about them. Here's why: Dude has apparently not actually seen one of his other partners in over a month. The other one, he doesn't actually like and doubts he'll keep seeing her. Conflicts between him and his wife about household...

An explanation: Ack, there's a rather important thing I left out. We've actually been "broken up" since early November. Here is what happened: His wife is diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. One night she was upset and broke her laptop in half with her bare hands. Then she tore her dress in...

I've been struggling with a relationship for two years. Here's the CliffsNotes: I met a couple at my church, and we hit it off as friends. The husband was poly. We started a relationship. I sat down with them for a discussion. The agreements his wife wanted were, "Act like friends, not lovers...

Indeed. I apologized to him today, and it went alright. I'll get to her later when we're able to have a real conversation. These things take time.

The three of us became friends through our church. I wasn't prepared for a romantic relationship, really. I was scared. I thought being with a guy-friend who had a wonderful wife and marriage would be less scary. In many ways, it was. But I started running into a lot of subconscious expectations...

I am a woman. I am not "involved with" or "dating" or "sexual" with a polyamorous man married to a "monogam-ish" woman, but I used to be. His wife's comfort with him being poly varies widely. It ends up resulting in her applying different boundaries to each of his relationships, and those rules...