Recent content by vannobo

I'm glad I wrote here, there is a lot of enlightening insight. Some of it is hard to read...but important! I do seem to contain a lot of contradiction here, which isn't bad, I'm still learning about myself and what I want/need. It's scary right now because I battle my inherent need for...

Therapist advice If anyone has experience with relationship therapists... let me know if you have any advice on whether a consultation/session over the phone could be MORE effective with an experienced therapist in open/poly relationships, versus a therapist locally who is not a specialist in...

Couple's therapy, giving it a try This is awesome advice. We had a big, long, gutting and crazily emotional talk last night. While I know I have to focus on myself and why I'm reacting the way I am, I am so deeply impressed with how much he wants to try for me. It was an inspiring evening as...

Distinction At this point I'm still processing everyone's input. I'm so glad I decided to reach out to this community. Thank you again, it's been SO helpful to get all these different perspectives. Remembering to ***breathe***!

Thank you! What overwhelming support and depth from this community. I truly appreciate the insight and the links to further reading. You guys make me smile.

I am 98% monogamous. That 2% is this a primal urge, one that is overwhelming and that I discovered can lead me astray. I scarred myself before, I ended up engaging in a sexual encounter outside of my monogamous relationship of 1.5 years. It shattered my ability to trust myself. I loved parts of...