Recent content by violet

Honestly, this can basically be summed up as the following: "If my partner truly loved me, s/he would be psychic." Any time the idea of "well, if so-and-so TRULY loved me, then ______." comes up, it should be examined for the presence of mind-reading expectations. This includes things that...

Figured I'd pop back over after my lengthy exile. I'm a substantially calmer human being, and have my head on considerably straighter these days. After my ... rather humiliating and also humbling experience here, I really wasn't sure I wanted to come back. But - there are sadly few places on...

To those of you still posting in this thread, please read my "Wiggling Out of A Tight Spot" blog. A conclusion has been reached that I'll post up soon. Gwendolyn, thank you for so concisely explaining the definition of a cowgirl. I really appreciate it. I've been trying to explain that, and...

To those of you still posting in this thread, please read my "Wiggling Out of A Tight Spot" blog. A conclusion has been reached that I'll post up soon. Gwendolyn, thank you for so concisely explaining the definition of a cowgirl. I really appreciate it. I've been trying to explain that, and...

To those of you still posting in this thread, please read my "Wiggling Out of A Tight Spot" blog. A conclusion has been reached that I'll post up soon. Gwendolyn, thank you for so concisely explaining the definition of a cowgirl. I really appreciate it. I've been trying to explain that, and...

Hoo gracious. I'm not letting this thread devolve into a big HMA vs. The World Of Poly and HIS personal mistakes. All 4 of us in this situation have made mistakes, and the big problem here is that while I will vent and ask for help here, I tend to not always post when things are good. That's...

Hoo gracious. I'm not letting this thread devolve into a big HMA vs. The World Of Poly and HIS personal mistakes. All 4 of us in this situation have made mistakes, and the big problem here is that while I will vent and ask for help here, I tend to not always post when things are good. That's...

Hoo gracious. I'm not letting this thread devolve into a big HMA vs. The World Of Poly and HIS personal mistakes. All 4 of us in this situation have made mistakes, and the big problem here is that while I will vent and ask for help here, I tend to not always post when things are good. That's...

Violet's Side of the Story (was "Wiggling Out Of A Tight Spot") A continuation of this thread: HMA's Side of the Story I'll replace this text with a link to my situation and such once I'm done with this post and I can wade through and find it. Since disclaimers are apparently necessary in my...

Violet's Side of the Story (was "Wiggling Out Of A Tight Spot") A continuation of this thread: HMA's Side of the Story I'll replace this text with a link to my situation and such once I'm done with this post and I can wade through and find it. Since disclaimers are apparently necessary in my...

(Part the third because the forum REALLY fucking hates long posts.) I think HMA is so done with all this - hell, he's STATED he is - that the only thing he's *WILLING* to see at this point is his own point of view. He's so sure that if everyone would just trust him and act on HIS perceptions...

(Part the third because the forum REALLY fucking hates long posts.) I think HMA is so done with all this - hell, he's STATED he is - that the only thing he's *WILLING* to see at this point is his own point of view. He's so sure that if everyone would just trust him and act on HIS perceptions...

(Part the third because the forum REALLY fucking hates long posts.) I think HMA is so done with all this - hell, he's STATED he is - that the only thing he's *WILLING* to see at this point is his own point of view. He's so sure that if everyone would just trust him and act on HIS perceptions...

(Part deux because the forum hates long posts.) *Ohm*. I'm completely willing to acknowledge that a lot of my hatred is probably ill-placed. She didn't do anything THAT HORRIBLY HEINOUS that should elicit such a response from me. I think I hate the situation more than I hate her, but it's just...

(Part deux because the forum hates long posts.) *Ohm*. I'm completely willing to acknowledge that a lot of my hatred is probably ill-placed. She didn't do anything THAT HORRIBLY HEINOUS that should elicit such a response from me. I think I hate the situation more than I hate her, but it's just...