Recent content by vodkafan

Hi all, this is just a flight of fancy for a moment but has a serious purpose....I am writing a novel at the moment (my first!) which is a novel about time travel....anyway I am trying to put together a believable vision of the future about 2180...I figured poly would become more important and...

Forgot this. The one thing I WON'T do is get involved with a married woman (or man, covering all bases I guess!) sexually in any way who wants to hide it from their partner. I don't do affairs. They hurt.

Hi thanks SNeacail and kdt. @ Kevin, well those are all great questions , I wish I could answer them! Last june I really did decide to completely opt out of worrying or thinking about relationships for a year and give my brain a rest. So I haven't thought about any of those questions...

Hi Dinged, that's nice of you to remember me. Well nothing has changed really. We still live in separate houses and we co-operate over the children and get on as long as we don't discuss what happened. Neither of us are in a relationship. The other possible father is long gone it seems. The...

Hi all. I am not really a stranger. Just dropped back in today to see how everyone is doing. Way back in june last year I decided to not be in any relationship at all (or rather, just be in one with me and my kids) for a whole year. That has gone by in a whizz and is nearly over. I figured that...

Hi Dinged, yes I saw the Birth Certificate. The space for father's name is left blank. However the baby has my surname, as she wanted it to be the same as all the other children's. I have no idea why she does not want a divorce, or anything about the other guy's relationship with the baby...

Hi dinged, well, the other guy dumped her when she got pregnant. At the time I thought we would survive, because the whole time of our "poly" she told me that she wanted the marriage, right? But then after 12 weeks of her basically being a crazy person and telling me that we were over I got...

Hi Kylekat, I looked at my old posts but I have forgotten how to do a link. But, to be honest I don't feel they have much value anyway as I was deluding myself the whole time anyway. My wife started the affair 3 months before I found out. When it came out she lied and told me it was not...

Hi dingedheart, I don't think the kids are doing so well, the eldest daughter especially. She has told me that she does not want a divorce. I have left it at that. I told her I didn't want to separate anyway so is she wishes to take steps to end our marriage she must do it. I am struggling...

Hi all. After my big Poly disaster (that was in reality my wife having an affair) and the end of my marriage 9 months ago I have dated a little bit but mostly spent that time on my own just healing up I guess. But now things have moved on and I have met somebody else I like. I intend it to be a...

Hello again all! Remember me? RE Redpepper's OP, I always thought of the anology of a relationship was a small boat or even a bed; something that you voluntarily "got inside" to share with someone else. The table idea doesn't work for me , it smacks too much of a barrier. But hey RP , it got...

Thanks Imaginary I just emailed Carma to let her know. :)

Hi everybody long time me no here. Carma contacted me and told me she has been banned from the forum out of the blue, she has no idea why.:( She did say that she got some funny arabic messages before it happened, she wonders if it is something to do with that. She asked me to investigate for her.

I think there is definitely something in this question, thanks to the original poster. I came to the conclusion some time ago that my wife may well be a sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder. I believe she always was but her symptoms and behaviours got worse as she got older. That was the...

Hi Magdlyn well nothing is set in stone yet. Nobody is going to court or anything. This was just the best working arrangement we could come up with short term. I see the kids almost everyday. But she and I couldn't stay in the same house anymore, the arguments and resentments were getting very bad.