Recent content by WaffleBattleBlues

The End Wow! I'm so grateful that so many people have stepped up to help me out. Thanks! Thanks to Magdlyn for her story. It does help me a lot since I feel a bit anxious about what's next. And I think anamikanon gave me a better perspective on my wife's view of all this. You're right she...

Thanks Thanks kdt26417 and dingedheart. I'll think on both of these. I can say that I tested the waters a bit this evening with her. I bought up that I really didn't want to lose our current level of love and playfulness during this year of living poly. I also asked her how much she wants...

The short version is I’m in a 20-year mono marriage and my wife has proposed to me that I take a year and explore polyamory, even though she wants nothing to do with it. At the end of the year, I go back to being mono or we divorce. The Long Version: The Problem My wife and I have been in a...

OK, I'll talk 1. Do you want an open relationship? Yes. 2. Is your relationship stable and happy? At this point and for the last few months, yes. Talking to my wife about poly and telling her this is something I think I *am* was tough. But the result was a new openness in our relationship...

When you're going through hell.... First of all, Bravo for taking a break. It's a difficult thing to be self-aware enough and wise enough to get your own needs taken care of first. As someone else on this forum said, you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of someone...

I don’t allow veto power in my relationships. I won’t allow it for myself either. The way I look at it, veto is just an easy-out to not deal with feelings of inadequacy or jealousy. These cannot be swept under the rug. They don’t go away. Sometimes veto can be expressed as a lover’s concern...

Break it down The "just do it" approach can work. But if you want to break it down a bit, you might want to start with just doing it for yourself. Start with typing it out somewhere private. Just using the words without speaking them or anyone seeing them or hearing them will help. You need...