Recent content by whimsey

I haven't posted here for a long time...things went very bad and I floundered a lot, when maybe I should have sought more support. In a nutshell, last November, 2 months after asking for an open marriage, and one month after admitting he was with another woman already, my husband started another...

Thanks guys, It's been a hard couple of days...we're doing okay right now, but have realized that my definition of reassurance is extremely different from his. And that he didn't feel he was supposed to do anything above and beyond what I explicitly asked for...checking in periodically (and he...

*hugs* Like Rachelina, I am in almost the exact same situation. The only difference is that his current girlfriend is not the first occasion of cheating, and we've already been down that road. But this time around, it's all fairly fresh with me, as well. I've only known for 3 weeks. That...

As a mono new to all this, and having been cheated on several times, sexually and emotionally, I am just sorting out all my fears and jealousy... Because of the cheating, and its obvious sexual nature, I *thought* that sex was the bigger trigger/perceived threat...it certainly brings up issues...

As for mess vs Mr W... I'm gonna go with Mr W :D Because he was likely going to just be W anyways for a couple of other reasons before 'mess' came up. And maybe 'mess' gives him a reason to continue to be a mess... We'll have to talk about it though... And of course, he's gonna have to work...

Wow Thanks again...I honestly don't know how I would have managed the past 48 hours without you. I would have made it, but not feeling alone...that made all the difference. I blog all the time, but its solitary...just knowing others have been there...I keep saying it, and its heartfelt...

Thanks once again I just talked to him, briefly...he had just arrived at her hotel. I think he is absolutely living in the moment. He apologized for not communicating more, very formally, and moved on. I know I shouldn't quibble with tone - he took responsibility for that and for leaving...

Well... I guess I'm going to be sleep deprived after all. That did NOT go well. Between he and I. It seemed to go well between he and his GF, except the leaving at the end... He got back to the hotel far later than I'd imagined. And there was no communication about how long he'd be. And...

That spiraling? Going a little (lot) out of control. No word well past when I was told I'd hear from him... Then a terse, completely vague text saying he's running late. In my private blog I said if I hadn't heard from him by 3:30 I was going to bed - I have a boyo here who needs a mom who's...

Thanks Sage and LMBL As the night progresses, I'm beginning to spiral. I'm glad I lasted as long as I did. I think I was expecting a short text or call informing me of the direction of things, since it was so completely up in the air, literally all or nothing. And I presume he's lost himself...

Blog page Alrighty...I figured best to carry on on the blog page - that way everything stays together... If anyone wants to see what's going on, it's here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?p=49006#post49006 Basically, I'm up waiting for word on what's going on...just a little...

This is the moment... And now we're into that actual night I've been dreading. It's real, it's happening right now. It's almost 1:00 am and he said he'd call me tonight once he left her place....but all of a sudden yesterday she dug in her heels and wanted to change that one boundary I had...

Alrighty, I'm fairly new here and posted on the New to Polyamory page a couple of days ago. I've felt such support and understanding, but thought maybe starting a blog type thread for myself might be easiest...that way everything at least begins in one place. I already introduced myself in...

Thanks once again I'm flying out the door to work for a few hours...blessed distraction... But I wanted to say thanks for the support and understanding and for a space where I can just share and be heard. A few quick replies: Sage, I had found and read that post (several times) a while...

Thanks again... So much to think about and right now I can't seem to think of anything...I am just working on breathing and taking things one moment at a time. He's on the bus, heading over to meet her...it's real, it's NOW and it's just the very beginning. I am very glad to have found my...