Recent content by Willow64

Perhaps I have not been very clear - he is spending time here with all of us but has not moved in. I appreciate greatly the perspective that my daughter may need lots of time to let go of the crush before this is ok with her. I just felt like the responses were a bit harsh and I had hoped for...

I agree that having a "primary" isn't required really at all. I think that might just make things more complicated in the long run.

I said we have been TALKING ABOUT THIS for 2 months... this man has been around all us for a year. I'm not sure if I'm just totally being misunderstood or if there is some serious nastiness going on... :confused:

We are going to use the Google calendar and I have already added dates to it, but now i have to figure out how to share it with them... LOL

I think it's great that you want to participate and I know that you will get lots of help and support. It always feels good for me to give something back to the group, so even though I am a newbie, I try. Welcome!

I would just suggest to take it slow. There is a lot of great information on here and *most* people are very kind and helpful. Take time to really weigh things out and proceed with confidence!

Thanks, vin. We are being very low key about it and the kids are accepting and enjoying our new family member.

I have had issues with UTIs when my partner (sorry if TMI) rubs my clitoris in a upwards direction instead of side to side or downward. I know it seems ridiculous, but if you are already sensitive to those and you get a bunch of bacteria rubbed in that direction, it CAN make a difference. Maybe...

Welcome~! I'm hoping that my "V" won't end in hurt feelings! I am fairly new to this but it has all seemed very natural in my thinking for a long time. I just wanted to say Howdy!

Hi Mermaid! I am fairly new here too but I can identify with your post. I have a great marriage with my husband but I too am a bit unfulfilled - not in the sex area, but in romance and nurturing. We have embarked on a "V" in which i am the hinge and *so far* we are doing very well. I think...

Welcome, Lucas. I think this a great spot to learn more. I am fairly new myself.

Good point.

This man has been a family friend (not just my friend) for almost a year. The kids know him well and he has done some amazing things for them. I totally get that it appears I am shoving him down their throats, but to be honest, we have been talking about this for about 2 months. The boys are...

By the way, just to be clear, I am not in any way saying that he is safe to be around my kids because he has a PhD. I am saying that school teachers are checked deeply in this state to be working with kids, so I have confidence (although not complete trust) that he is ok to be around them.

Many good points and I certainly can see that the judge would have some subjective input there. My ex is an alcoholic with a DUI who drinks the whole time he has the kids and generally spends time only video gaming with them. I'm not too worried, frankly. Our new partner has been a friend of...